[kaleidoscope]

I still am, in a way. I have like what, three actual close friends IRL? I have acquaintances, people I talk to daily if I run into them but never really see outside of academic settings. It's somehow different in university though. You don't feel like such an outsider.. most times. ^^

In school, I was that weird kid who read too much and no one really talked to, lol.

[RetroVortex]

Yup another loner here. (Even at 21 at Uni)

If it wasn't for my best friend I don't think there would be anyone at all I'd be close enough to consider a true friend.

[Somniorum]

Yeah. When I was in highschool, up till grade 10 I had three friends who I'd had since elementary. Then I moved provinces, and haven't had a friend since. It was intentional at first - I wanted to be myself, and to be able to pick my friends... people who had more shared interests, people who weren't homophobic or sexist or whatnot. And I was quite happy being alone.

Until I eventually realised just how *very long* I'd been alone for.

If you can fight it, I recommend being more social. Seems to me that Skum has the right way of doing things.

[Theodore]

I'm the cowboy in Romy and Michele.

[GoldenDawn]

In elementary school I had "friends" but they picked on me... I think this was the start for my shyness, social inhabition.. In highschool the're was them and me... their was a image of 'beauty and populairity and that was blond, golden name necklease, slutty clothes stuff like that. I was not one of them. I've turned 'gothic' and the've picked even more on me. I've had a few aquantainces, and I hang out with them most of the time. They were also loners. After that collage was kind of the same. Now I'm 24 and things changed recently. I've become more comfertable with myself since I've moved out of my parents place. It was so liberating. I have a few good friends who i've can count one. I'm being so much more social then I used to be. My life has it colors back.

[RabbitHeart]

I had a very small group of friends that I clung to for dear life. Namely a couple of the girls in the group who I always felt overly dependent on. I simply didn't go to things if they weren't going, or if they went with someone else. I went to prom alone, with a group who all had dates, because my friend wouldn't take no for an answer, but it was probably one of the more awkward days of my life.

Otherwise, in most of my classes I was alone and absolutely dreaded the moment when they'd ask us to partner up.

I'm probably more of a loner now, but part of it is the fact that I only really want genuine relationships anyway. The other part is that I'm awkward as hell.

[icedlemontea]

I'm in kind of the situation what said. During primary had quite a lot of friends, but when I went to secondary it... didn't go too well. I have moved on a little more since then but I'm not really close of the few friends I have. Usually I'm the one who gets left out of the group of friends I have. There was this one guy (Who I can't determine if he is ENTP or ESFJ) who I was the closest friend I've ever had in secondary, but he moved away to England so I'm barely in contact with him anymore. :(

So yeah, I'm a loner. Pretty sure it's going to last for a while until at least I graduate. Or maybe even longer than that.

[Dragearen]

I've been homeschooled my whole life, but I seem to actually have been pretty lucky. I was shy as all get out, but somehow I managed to make a few friends, who stayed very close to me and still have. When I hit high school, I actually got to the point where I could start a conversation with someone I didn't know. By my sophomore year (now)... Well, I just successfully got two girls to dance with me last night, both of whom I had never met before. My shyness is still there, and I usually don't talk to people unless I have a reason to, but it's a whole lot lessened.

[questforself]

I was in a hurry to get somewhere when I made my post so I didn't get to write about everything I wanted to say. I mentioned the part about going to a private Christian school for elementary/primary school because most of the other kids were from white upper middle class families and I was born in another country (South Korea) and an ethnic/racial minority. I think one of the reasons I was a loner was because I felt I was so different because of my ethnic background and I was always self-conscious about it and anticipated being made fun of because of being different. Sure I heard some racial slurs and was made fun of for being different from time to time growing up but now as I got older I realized that I was way more self-conscious than I really needed to be. I think one of the reasons I was sent to a private Christian school was because my parents thought kids would be less likely to make fun of me for being from a different country and racial background. I didn't ever get to experience what it would have been like had I went to public school but it was very rare for any of the kids from that school to make fun of me because of my ethnic background. But at the same time, it also seemed like the other kids were being too nice to me because I was different. Maybe their parents taught them to be tolerant but at times it kind of felt like the other kids were talking to me in a condescending way in that they were treating me too nice. Maybe I was imagining this but that's how it seemed to me at the time.

When I started going to public school for middle school and high school/secondary school, there were other Asian kids and they were also much bigger schools and more diverse. I hung out with other quiet kids and a good number of them were Asian. But like I said in the previous post, none of my friendships were all that close, I felt.

After high school, I went into the Air Force and there I probably formed some of the closest friendships I've ever had but still nobody I would consider a best friend or anybody I felt that I really connected with to the level I wanted. Being in the military, everybody came from all over the country, so just about everybody was different from each other to some degree. I feel like I wouldn't have been friends with any most of my Air Force friends in any other circumstances. It was simply because we were always around each other that we ended up hanging out all the time and getting semi-close.

After the Air Force, I came back home and I only see my high school friends every now and then. I've made a few friends from college here but none are really that close. There was a friend from church I used to a hang out with all the time and we were pretty close I guess but still not the level of connectedness I'd expect from a real close friendship. Now that friend has moved somewhere else for an internship and I don't really have anybody I hang out with regularly at the moment. I see one of my friends friend college like about every other week and more sporadically at other times.

[unclebigs]

I've always been a loner. I make a few friends, but nothing ever lasts. People seem to really like me on an acquaintance level, but nothing past that. I'm in college and I'm used to it now.

I'm a loner and prefer it that way. I have a girlfriend and my family and that's it. That's the way I want it. My experience with friends hasn't been that rewarding. Jealousy, competition and other shallow traits seem to enter the relationship which causes me to retreat and prefer time alone. Most "friends" are of the fair weather variety and aren't worth the time and emotional investment.