How do you cheer yourself up when your down?

**catherder** · 09-10-2012 12:48 PM

i talk to my friends, the ones who i dont sense to be forced into doing it.

i have 2 guy friends, an infj and entj who gives me their time, in fact they were the ones who helped me out. the one i truly care about, an istj, wouldnt give me the time of his day. it hurts and i have not been really able to figure out why i have a feeling he doesnt give a rats ass about me.

yesterday was a particularly bad day, i was suffering from a rare anxiety attack I probably got from lack of sleep and being hungry. I did eat but it didnt help..(guess it was too late). I tried to sleep but I couldn't. good thing for my friends, I really treasure them and guess what..will do anything for them.

im gonna take tjseabury's advice..take 20,000mg of vitamin d and listen to hardstyle. :D ive never even heard of hardstyle until now. i do like electronica/techno though..

**mushr00m** · 09-10-2012 12:59 PM

Originally Posted by lifeisanillusion

Everyone has given excellent suggestions. No matter what you do, just be loving towards yourself and let go of the judgments about being depressed. Let them come and go and they will pass. Try to see the depression as an invitation to learn more about yourself rather than something that is horrible and destructive. Love yourself and know you are amazing the way you are. You don't need to live up to all the ideals and stories that you tell yourself. Rest in what you are. Here is an interesting video on depression.

Thanks so much. I never thought of it like that. I have always thought of it as something that I must escape from and yet become even more hopelessly addicted to this depressive state. I think its the shame of being a sufferer resulting from what you said. I will take all this on board. Thankyou, I really appreciate your kind words :)

**mushr00m** · 09-10-2012 01:07 PM

Originally Posted by ethylester

I echo what others are saying. I will also add: let other people take care of you. Don't push people away, even though that might be your first instinct. Yesterday, for example, I had a burst of frustration and anger and I began crying and shut myself in my bedroom. i was wallowing in it. My husband came in and laid next to me and tried to cheer me up. At first I resisted and tried to stay in my cocoon of negativity. But then I slowly started letting him soothe me and I let myself feel cared for. Within a half an hour, I felt 100 times better.

Ouch, yeah I relate. I have terrible problems with this. Its like I feel weak and stuff or just that don't want anyone to help me with my problems or that I want others to think im coping fine. I do tend to nag a lot to my other half, well more whinging about life and insecurities and stuff so im a bit careful of not relying too much on him. And I think thats just a conscience thing.
I will try to be a bit more open I think, being so closed doesn't help.