This is a discussion on Were you misunderstood as a child? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by InternalWonderous That makes so much sense. Thank you :') I hope you're not being sarcastic. But I'm ...
Ugh! Where do I begin?! I was a very shy, sensitive kid, who was more interested in books then playing with the other kids. I found the girls too shallow, and the boys too rough. I hated shallowness from a very young age, and was pretty intolerant I'm afraid.
Adults got on my Mom, they were like: "Do something about that child! She needs to quit reading so much and play with the other kids!" Mom got worried and tried to push me to be more social, which only made me more stubborn. My Mom meant well. She even encouraged my love of reading. Life as a single Mom is very hard. :(
Anyway, I still get fussed at for my lack of interest in an active social life. I have friends, I'm just a homebody.
I was the kid who couldn't verbally communicate my thoughts without sounding silly. So, I stopped talking and turned to books as my companions. In middle school, I did something really embarrassing and was ridiculed for it harshly. So, I pretty much lived in the library during those years. In high school, I had a small group of friends that I associated with. After graduation (The last year of high school was hell. All because of a flatulence incident that had people avoiding me and saying "Ew." everytime I walked by.), I pretty much stuck to myself. I just recently found someone to pal around with, so I'm happy about that. I think every INFP at some point was misunderstood as a child, but understood by a fellow INFP. Ugh, I love you guys!
No, I had a pretty good childhood. My parents never criticized me for being dreamy, shy, or quiet. They encouraged me to make friends, which I certainly appreciate, but respected my feelings when I was tired of being around others. They were supportive of my creative pursuits, and never put me down for asking too many questions. I had no trouble making friends through out childhood... I went to a school from Pre-K to 6th grade which encouraged imagination and creativity, and always had really close bonds with others through out. No bullying or teasing to make me feel bad, just nice friends. Nobody ever misunderstood me, and nobody really misunderstands me today, at least nobody that I care about. :P