Social Suicide - List of things that rub others the wrong way~


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  • Mean-spirited, discouraging remarks, and accusations.

    26 27.08%
  • Excessive fault finding, blaming, and criticism

    36 37.50%
  • Embarrassing and humiliating others

    14 14.58%
  • Playing "trump" - always topping someone else's story

    22 22.92%
  • Playing "poor me" - self pity game.

    56 58.33%
  • Bragging & Exaggerating

    33 34.38%
  • Being a know-it-all

    56 58.33%
  • Insincerity

    37 38.54%
  • Talking down to people - condescending

    24 25.00%
  • Swearing, rude, or generally inconsiderate language

    43 44.79%
  • Gossip / Rumor Mongering

    30 31.25%
  • Lying

    40 41.67%
  • Judging others

    57 59.38%
  • Complaining, moaning, whining

    60 62.50%
  • Manipulation

    29 30.21%
  • Prejudice (racial, ethnic, gender, age-related)

    19 19.79%
  • Threats

    10 10.42%
  • Arguing (direct or indirect)

    47 48.96%
  • Interrupting

    41 42.71%
  • Tick this box if you selected more than 5 of the above.

    48 50.00%
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This is a discussion on Social Suicide - List of things that rub others the wrong way~ within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; To be fair to myself while I did tick more than 5, I did so considering my past self. A ...

  1. #21
    INFP - The Idealists

    To be fair to myself while I did tick more than 5, I did so considering my past self.
    A lot of the points would not apply anymore to my current self, which I am glad. I think a maximum of 2 in the recent past would be applicable at this point. Also everything I picked was me being critical about myself. I don't remember anytime where someone has pointed out these to me.
    Other than arguing with people in order to prove my point I don't think I meant to do most of these things.

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  2. #22
    INFP - The Idealists

    I only clicked one - know it all. I couldn't identify with any of the others. Sometimes I like to correct people if their information is wrong or distorted. I have a good memory and I remember a lot of little facts and tid bits of information that I can call upon depending on the situation. I usually only do it to people I am comfortable with as well and not strangers, unless I am 100% sure and I feel that they are 100% wrong.
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  3. #23
    INFP - The Idealists

    As far as rubbing others the wrong way goes I didn't see many of mine listed, though I'm pretty innocuous socially speaking I think because I'm usually a wallflower, and try to appear agreeable.

    however, here are the things that people probably don't like about me.

    having a dramatic emotional outburst thereby creating a public scene is probably my worst offence and happens from time to time, although I wouldn't say 'regularly'

    ignoring rules and social norms to follow my own whim, like going in places barefoot, wearing whatever-the-hell-I-want regardless of the venue, climbing on things or slipping through fences instead of taking the gate, asking for something that is not on the menue and/or holding up the waitor with excessive special instructions

    being stubborn and refusing to go along with what other people want me to do, such as insisting on wandering off on my own instead of staying with the group, insisting on stopping off to get what I want to eat somewhere else and bringing in my takeaway box to eat where everyone else wanted to eat, absolutely refusing to play games or otherwise make a fool of myself with others for the sake of 'having fun'

    excessively asking "what" "No sorry I still didn't hear you" etc. I still claim it's because people don't enunciate, but I'm sure they find it annoying that I bother to make them repeat themselves untill I catch everything.

    not paying attention and generally having no clue what people are saying, what is going on, or where I'm 'supposed to be'

    dragging down the flow of conversation in a number of ways: jumping way back to a topic I didn't think was finished, adding some random thought that no one else can see how it connects and then babbling about how it does while no one follows, being too eager to identify with others and thereby seeming to always talk about myself or seeming to always just agree with everyone, being quite frank and detailed when asked 'how are you', not bothering to pretend that I follow when someone is talking about something I don't know and don't care about - just giving them a blank look and saying I really have no clue (end of conversation).

    fleeing awkwardly from people's attempts to meet me. I have no idea how that comes off as, but many times I probably seem haughty for avoiding or ignoring people's attempts to be friendly when I'm not in the mood to make small talk.
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  4. #24
    INFP - The Idealists

    If I went through my entire life up to this point, I could tick all of them.
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  5. #25
    INFP - The Idealists

    I think my biggest problem is my "doormat" type personality: letting others take advantage of me until I can't take it. I just can't say no, I have no idea how to be assertive at all. Sometimes this problem results in hostility, other times it just results in the awkward ending of friendships.
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  6. #26
    INFP - The Idealists

    Oh dear, I ticked just about half the boxes. I do a lot of them jokingly, but many of the others I've done out of pure spite. I can be a bit of a sadist at times. Sometimes I get into a mood where I want nothing more than to tear somebody apart mentally (and sometimes physically). That's when most of those things happen.
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  7. #27
    Unknown Personality

    I'm not sure if I "rub others the wrong way" from these (perhaps I'm blinder to people than I thought), but I do a fair number of these. Choices made are based on my own judgment though, as people don't seem to want to voice their opinions of me...

    By the way - what's wrong with arguing? I ticked it, but simple "arguing" is not something I would include in such a list.
    Lad thanked this post.



  8. #28
    INFP - The Idealists

    Really? "complaining, moaning, whining" is in the lead?? In a world such as ours that is full of suffering..I thought people would be a little more accepting toward these actions. Now if thats all someone does and doesn't take charge of the situation, then I can see the bad side of it.
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  9. #29
    INFP - The Idealists

    I don't do any things on the list though I did a few of them when I was young. Today, I rub people the wrong way because I don't waste much energy conforming to social expectations. With regards to my personality, opinions, beliefs & values. Primarily my personality in groups. People probably think I'm either naive or just being a jerk. Socially, I'm not a "team player" by choice. It doesn't always clash but when it does people remember. I used to feel like a freak raised by wolves, trying to fit into the human world but I don't give it much thought anymore. Society as a whole generally discourages individuality, at least in my experience.
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  10. #30
    Unknown Personality

    Excessive fault finding, blaming, and criticism & Embarrassing and humiliating others as well as indirect/direct arguing can be my faults when I face people who continuously harass or talk down to others for their own personal superiority complex game mentality. I don't know, it's like I've built a subconscious mechanism that an eye-for-eye mentality is the best in several situations, something in line with my need for order and justice.

    I've been guilty of manipulation -- but it's on occasion a mechanism out of annoyance over being underestimated as overly naive and idealistic just because I can be 'empathetic' or 'accommodating.' Usually it's a test or a revenge plan against manipulative people.

    Oh I am so getting judged -__-
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