an emotionally withholding mother
that was extremely manipulative,
and withheld her love
when Mary displeased her throughout her life,
an emotionally unavailable, distant father,
the kind of man that did not show emotion or affection,
was distant, authoritarian and lacked empathy.
Sit quietly in a room by yourself.
Visualize daily if you can.
See yourself taking care of yourself as a little child.
Give the child within unconditional nurturing love.
Visualize yourself being the parent
that you needed and didn’t have.
Visualize saying to yourself as a child
“You are enough.
You’re important to me.
I love you.”
And then affirm to yourself often:
“I am enough.
I have enough.
And there is more than enough in the universe for me.”
Then, begin to make choices
that indicate you are a valuable person.
Evaluate the people you allow into your life.
Be discerning and show the child within
that you can be trusted
to be a loving and responsible parent
This will begin to retrain your whole being.
The only way Mary is going to bring into her life
the kind of relationships that she craves
is to first be that kind of person towards herself.
She needs to create a relationship with herself
that is very intimate,
Change will begin to occur
and transformation will slowly take over her entire vibration
which will then attract a new kind of energy into her life.
If you are feeling like Mary,
try the above mentioned techniques
and watch your life transform!
Edited from Moving Beyond Your Parental Anger | visualizationworks.com