[20111017]

For example,
an emotionally withholding mother
that was extremely manipulative,
and withheld her love
when Mary displeased her throughout her life,
an emotionally unavailable, distant father,
the kind of man that did not show emotion or affection,
was distant, authoritarian and lacked empathy.




Re-Parenting yourself:

Sit quietly in a room by yourself.
Visualize daily if you can.
See yourself taking care of yourself as a little child.
Give the child within unconditional nurturing love.
Visualize yourself being the parent
that you needed and didn’t have.
Visualize saying to yourself as a child
“You are enough.
You matter.
You’re important to me.
I love you.”
And then affirm to yourself often:
“I am enough.
I have enough.
And there is more than enough in the universe for me.”
Then, begin to make choices
that indicate you are a valuable person.
Evaluate the people you allow into your life.
Be discerning and show the child within
that you can be trusted
to be a loving and responsible parent
to yourself.
This will begin to retrain your whole being.

The only way Mary is going to bring into her life
the kind of relationships that she craves
is to first be that kind of person towards herself.
She needs to create a relationship with herself
that is very intimate,
loving,
forgiving
and compassionate.
Change will begin to occur
and transformation will slowly take over her entire vibration
which will then attract a new kind of energy into her life.
If you are feeling like Mary,
try the above mentioned techniques
and watch your life transform!


Edited from Moving Beyond Your Parental Anger | visualizationworks.com

[Vivianightime]

I wish my dad was nicer i wish my mom was less anxious all the time

[Runemarks]

Wish they both were different, especially my mother.

[Shorttail]

I was born with an abundant lack of social skills. Despite all the tears and the hardship especially my mother put me through, I feel I was taught crucial things needed to blend in with the people on this planet. There are things I wish could have been different, of course, but in retrospect my parents gave a lot of liberties other people have had to fight for endlessly. They've always accepted me, even if it didn't feel that way.

I'll probably try be different to my own kids though. :P

[SadLuckDame]

My needs had never been met, but I don't wish to change this.
Rather, it is that I am glad for what I had and who I've become because of it.
I know my needs now, since they were lacking then.
It's a circle.
I can love.

[WardRhiannon]

I wish my father had tried to be an active part of my life, though I did have a father figure. I wish my mother would quit trying to force me to fulfill her dreams of what I should be, among other things.

[Runemarks]

I changed my mind.
While my mother barely remembers my age, my dad knows even my favourite fork and my favourite part of an ice cream cone, and I never told him which they were. She thinks she knows everything about me, my ideas, my needs and my feelings but she's totally wrong. He's afraid he can't understand me but he always know how I think, what I feel, what I want and what I need, even if sometimes he's not able to give it to me.
Now I'll go to give him a big hug (and I'll hug my mother too because she needs it).

[SadLuckDame]

Basically, the way I've begun to parent my child-self, is by removing all male physical influencing.
I have quiet to work with her in, little interference and lots of stage for voice. She's wide awake and happy as a clam blossoming. I let her have a lot of ways with me and I learn from the experience. I finally built her a home and space without confusion, noise, interruptions, misunderstandings, touch. She's well fed at the moment. Trying not to spoil her too muchly, because she almost doesn't want to let go of me anymore, nor to ever suffer again.

Which is the cross-roads we're always having tea at.

I don't want to ruin her by new introductions. It's a monster to entertain and I'm working through it at a slow pace, so that we both have what it is we're to have.

[yello]

I wish they were completely different people. I just want good genes.

[StaceofBass]

I think I only wish my mom was different...

My mom is an ESTJ. Do I need to say much more? When we get into a fight, it's almost like world war 3 is happening in our house. We both go in guns blazing and someone usually gets hurt...most of the time it seems like I'm getting hurt because she hides her feelings extremely well. Also if you say something or do something the slightest bit wrong she will automatiucally get pissed off. I like to play around...yet so does she...it just has to be on herterms. It's her way or the highway. *sigh* I've always been jealous of the girls who were like best friends with their moms...I hope to have a good solid relationship with my future daughter when I'm a mom because this relationship is almost a nightmare.

My dad on the other hand....I'm a total Daddy's Girl. I think this may piss my mom off. My dad's type is most likely ENTJ. :P My dad and I will share quite a few laughs, but the only thing that will irritate him about me is why I'm not more organized and why I don't plan ahead. LOL...sorry. I just can't get myself to be organized as hard as I may try to... But my dad is my own personal teddy bear. <3 He's always there for me if I want a hug. My mom on the other hand... >_>