[Aelthwyn]

With people I don't know/don't care about I tend to avoid conflict as much as possible. I try to smooth things over, avoid contact, smile and nod to appease them and then do whatever I want when they aren't there.

With people I do care about and am close to I wouldn't say I'm confrontational, I still try to avoid conflict wherever I can, but I also won't let small tensions build up. If I sense something is off between me and someone I care about I will try to bring it up tactfully and seek openly seek resolution, rather than trying to solve it by guess-work or brood over it or wait for it to pass.

When I do get into a situation of conflict with someone I care about I tend to cling to them, often even physically, untill the conflict is resolved. I don't leave, and I don't like to let them leave before we are 'okay' again. Even if I'm really mad and yelling at someone, I will often grab onto part of them if they try to move away from me because I want it to be clear that the conflict isn't going to affect my care for or commitment to them.



I usually try to understand someone else's perspective when we're having some kind of conflict, and I seek to explain my perspective to them. I feel that this is the only way to really resolve something. You can't just make someone agree with you, you have to both seek understanding and reconciliation. I usually don't want them to just tell me 'okay you're right' and I don't want them to expect me to do that either. I like to talk things through and for there to be both give and take. I also like to do everything we can to make both people's ideals/preferences possible. And I'm a big fan of agreeing to disagree, I feel that is an important sign of respect and maturity.

[TaleofMisunderstood]

@refugee: Age is nothing but a #. Oh wait, you probably have lots of experience that I don't have. Show me your weiz.

[Kito]

It's just a means to an end IMO. It's something I'd rather avoid.

[refugee]

@refugee: Age is nothing but a #. Oh wait, you probably have lots of experience that I don't have. Show me your weiz.

Wax on, wax off.

[Chad A]

I personally evade/run/avoid way too much, but when I see others avoiding a conflict that I know is snowballing on them, I can be very urging for them to confront their own situation - even though, I myself when put in that situation may just be like... "whatever". I know way too much about the road you go down when you don't resolve the conflict and just let it be... do as I say, not as i do... I guess.

[TaleofMisunderstood]

• u imply that compromising originality is required to attain good grades
  
  
• i think that's a faulty assertion
  
  
• getting good grades should reflect your capacity to work hard and learn
  
  How do you deal with this conflict but say Albert Einstein?
  
  

[Calvaire]

It all depends onthe conflict and how the person is acting if I know someone is reasonable I will confront calmy and have a conversation with them,but if the person seems angry/unreasonable then I will evade.