So, I don't quite get this, so I'd like to get it from the horse's mouth.
So in the two parts of Feeling:
Fe is about deriving satisfaction from other people's enjoyment, right?
Fi is about deriving satisfaction from your own enjoyment, right?
Why are Fi doms and auxes seen to encourage others to be themselves(basically, to do what they want) while Fe doms and auxes are seen typically to expect others to conform to their others? I don't get it.
So F types are supposed to care about harmony, it seems like Fe would care more about everybody's harmony while Fi would care most about their own feelings of harmony. Aka Fi dom creates an atmosphere, Fe dom ensures it.
But in practice it seems to be the opposite, Fe doms seem to push others to act a certain way, counteracting their original goal of keeping people happy, and Fi doms seem to encourage others to do whatever, counteracting their goal of keeping their harmony from being interrupted by allowing the possibility that the others' want may run counter to the Fi dom.
So, my question specifically for INFPs, is, do you care whether or not people are themselves, or do you only care about whether you are being yourself or not? And in certain situations, do you think there are times where you agree with an Fe dom/aux's judgement when both are giving advice to one person about something or acting in the same situation?