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This is a discussion on Do you hate hearing the phone ring? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by stacey12201985 I confess...I hate answering my phone. I usually just let it ring. But then I get ...
When I was a teenager I used to talk a lot on the phone with my old friends. I was always on the phone after school. We talked about gossip, boys, etc etc. I cannot deny it was fun but there were times when it was annoying and I was not in the mood to talk. My friends would call me and I ignored their calls thanks to the wonders of Caller ID, but they knew I was at home so they left the phone ringing for a loooooong time and that would anger my parents specially my father. In certain ocassions he would pick up the phone and hang up or would tell them to stop calling which was embarrasing. My friends were scared of my dad.
I remeber that one of our male friends once said that his perfect girlfriend would had certain qualities that we (female friends) had. He wanted a girlfriend with the sense of humor of one of my friend's, the intelligence of my other friend.........and what he liked about me was that.......I didn't liked to talk on the phone so he wanted a girlfriend like that as well........oO.......Turns out that now that old friend is gay and he is living with his b.f. I guess he never found his perfect dream girl.
My ISFJ mother is not a huge fan of the phone either but she talks a lot with her mother and sisters. Mom is the youngest of 8 sibblings and she is the one who takes care of my grandmother the most because they are kind of lazy. ISFJs are not called the "nurturers" for nothing. She hates it when she gets calls from her sisters frequently because most of the time is to talk about problems which wears her out. Some ISTJ are also known for not liking to talk on the phone such as my father and one of my bosses who is a very avoidant person.
I'm not an INFP, and while I don't mind answering the phone, and like talking to my close friends on the phone as a general rule, I hate hate hate having to make phone calls. I make phone calls to my own house fine, but even calling my close friends makes me nervous sometimes. I just cross my fingers and hope I never have to call anyone else.
Like, I remember this one time when I was 15 or 16, I had to call my uncle to ask for donation money for Relay for Life, because our schoole made us raise $100 or else they wouldn't let us participate, and it was due the next day. Admittedly, it wasn't a good phone call to make, because I hate asking for money from people just as much if not more than I hate calling them, but I remember sitting at my kitchen table balling my eyes out because I didn't want to call him. It probably took my mom like an hour to convince me to do it, and I still really didn't want to.
Hate the phone; however, love Skype....
There's a moment of panic each time the phone rings.
It's not just the talking on the phone itself -- I don't love love love phone conversations, but I don't really dislike them either. It's more the interruption and fear of losing control: I can't choose when the phone rings or who is calling or why. I just have to quickly adopt a sociable demeanor and adapt myself as required to communicate with whoever is calling. That itself is fine, it's normal, I like being sociable. It's jarring, though, to have to do so suddenly, at the unexpected ringing of a bell.
Hate it? What goes beyond hate? That's me. Unless it's my Mom calling.
Theres been times ive just not answered the phone because i didnt want to deal with the person on the other line.
Even when I do talk on the phone im pretty much to the point so i can speed it along and hang up.