[FreeBeer]

Honestly I dont think it's gonna work out between you two. THat's just my honest opinion, which is really worth nothing. I suggest moving on to a better girl and leaving the INFP girls to us INFP guys. We'll take your sloppy seconds.

The above is full of shit, unless its a joke, even then I don't know where to put it.

OP, if she likes you, then she likes you for who you are. Show interest, be prepared to open up and be vulnerable with her. Apart from that every woman is different and its always a lot of fun when things are complicated and exiting, is it not? I wish you good luck ;), be yourself, don't be anyone else.

[Marimeli]

She's clearly concerned about the friendship too, and about being vulnerable. Sounds like she wants to get to know you romantically because she's afraid of being hurt both ways--I would guess some bad relationship is making her a little skittish, especially when dealing with someone who is such an important part of her life in general. If she loses you in love, she loses you everywhere, and that's a huge risk to take.

So... YOU be vulnerable. Show her that you're also opening yourself up to risk. Give her things that could hurt you--and i don't mean that in a masochistic way, but one way to be truly open with someone is to give them some power over the things that can deeply affect you. Otherwise it feels superficial or worse, unbalanced... where one person holds all the heavy information about the other, where the "Mariana trenches" are, while maintaining a protective shell around their own heart. In the past, I have dated guys who played those power games with me and I ended up poking at prodding and pushing until I found the chinks in the armor, often with devastating consequences that could have totally been avoided if the guys had been open with me to begin with.

Also, tell her how you're feeling as this process unfolds. Tell her you want to kiss her, hold her, snuggle or make love. She may not be ready to DO it, but it might help to know that you want to.

[MarcusWarren]

I have done a little bit of both; compromised in the context of being more sharing with my emotions and my past, which was very well received. Instead of stating things too directly, I have been asking questions and stating things indirectly but that are still connected to the meat of the matter. While I have also told her how my needs and are best met, which she understood and has implemented. On random day after getting her some coffee i just started talking to her about how I was raised and how that effected me, which triggered something in her and she opened up to me in a very personal and vulnerably trusting way "Mariana Trench". Over all this forum and your guy's advice has been extremely helpful and I appreciate it. But I agree too much bending would be very unhealthy for me, and would be all for not because it would be based on fabrication.

And yes, different is enthralling ;)