[Hycocritical truth teller]

Does it ever happen to you that when someone close to you has a problem, you can hardly concentrate on your obligations?
How do you feel when someone close to you has a big problem - how does it effect on you?

[SocioApathetic]

Personally, it doesn't affect me at all. If they have a problem, I am more than willing to help them find a rational solution but if all they want to do is avoid it and seek comfort, I cannot be the source because I find it very difficult to empathize with another's plight and fake "appropriate" consolation.

[dann]

Unless it's my mother, I usually don't give too much of a fuck

[Zebedee]

Help me, dann. You're my only hope.

Unless it's my mother, I usually don't give too much of a fuck

Oh... nevermind.

[dann]

I still give great advice though!

[JigglyJello]

If it's someone I care about I'll usually keep them in the back of my thoughts and think of different possible solutions. I only have a few friends and so if there is something serious going on with them I'll tend to worry more than what I really let on. Close friends have occasionally given me the nickname of "mother" and "mommy-dearest" when I become really worried.

[Pointless Activist]

I generally worry over them until the problem is fixed or they come to me for help. That's only if I know them and have a strong emotional connection with them. if not, then I ask what's wrong and help in any way I can, but I don't really worry over them.

[Hycocritical truth teller]

The hell...
Am i the only person then who gives to much of a fuck???
I think about other people and their problems in my free time in the back of my mind, when it's my boyfriend involved im kinda stressing out a bit but keeping calm so i can give an advice, but i usually get emphatic as hell and i have to hide it cuz it will be too much.
I usually go rational so i can give them a proper advice and so i can understand them better.
But i do react more then it shows on other people's situation. If it's not someone close im still thinking about the problem and i will probably connect with a person through the problem and if they just ring me and ask me to help i would. But i don't impose myself cuz i don't wanna be pushy...if they need help i will give them to them in less pushy and subtle way. I think things go calmer that way.
If it's a best friend im active in thinking about their problems very often and usually share information to see what other people think how can it be resolved...
Don't know - i guess i feel responsible to take care of other's moods when im with them or close to them.

[wisdomdreams]

If it's my mother then I can't seem to focus on anything else until she feels better. My heart gets heavy and the feeling lingers until the situation lightens up. This also goes for others that I am very close to. For most everyone else, I feel nothing. That sounds cold, I know; but it seems to me that if I don't have an emotional connection with someone, then I can't really feel much of anything for that person (generally speaking. there have been exceptions).

[UtterMess]

Does it ever happen to you that when someone close to you has a problem, you can hardly concentrate on your obligations?
How do you feel when someone close to you has a big problem - how does it effect on you?

I've been doing it all my life and I still do it....
I spend my time trying to understand their problems and trying to help them through it....I have even gone as far as breaking down my own value system to help someone get through their problem....and most of the time I couldn't do anything until that problem was fixed, I try my best also to give out sound advice but sometimes I can feel their pain so intensely that it gets overwhelming.....anyway over time I learned how to manage some of that intense feeling....I still can't bear to see anyone I care about hurt...but at the same time I have been hurt a lot by some people I considered to be very close to me......so now I try my best to be reserved about how I handle my emotions....