[mushr00m]

I try to offer advice to others usually after I have dealt with my own problems first.

[Hycocritical truth teller]

I've been doing it all my life and I still do it....
I spend my time trying to understand their problems and trying to help them through it....I have even gone as far as breaking down my own value system to help someone get through their problem....and most of the time I couldn't do anything until that problem was fixed, I try my best also to give out sound advice but sometimes I can feel their pain so intensely that it gets overwhelming.....anyway over time I learned how to manage some of that intense feeling....I still can't bear to see anyone I care about hurt...but at the same time I have been hurt a lot by some people I considered to be very close to me......so now I try my best to be reserved about how I handle my emotions....

im personally very reserved on a first encounter with a person...more pushy they get, the colder i get
i think im pulling the strong side out of coldness to prevent people from taking advantage from me
i always tried not to make differences between people i choose to be my friends, but after a few years of bad experiences and rather bad, i noticed i should be more critical about other's personalities or it could cost me badly
the problem is - im still seem to put up with people and im still very prone to avoid conflicts
i usually let the time pass and start showing myself after im close with people
but after bad experiences i really got cynical towards people...i think im showing lack of trust with or without a reason
but still...in the end i do care and to stay around