Yes, we're not the only ones on the receiving end of rejection. Like everyone, and as we should (oh I WISH I COULD love everyone!) we can and DO deal out our fair share of rejection and I feel as if I have to do a lot of it lately.
Problem is, I can't really do it. Even when I try to stop talking to someone because they sap my energy/are too oppressive/they're just too boring/they plainly repulse me/all of these combined, I always sort of feel sorry for them in the end, I can't JUST remove them from my life.
This might have some connection with: 1) this urge to "prove with actions" that we love someone by doing anything he or she askes or wishes. Because if we don't do what they want, we don't really love them. 2) being flattered by someone liking us or wanting to be around us, even if it's for unhealthy reasons we wouldn't logically agree with, and subconsciously feeding off of this relationship to sustain our very peculiar ego.
For example: there is this girl that seems to be fascinated by me. When she meets me, she just follows me around and won't leave unless she decides on her own its time to go home. She sends me messages and calls me and wants to meet up. Sometimes I do meet up with her but I never have much fun. She's deadly boring, asks me retarded questions all the time just to appear as if she's following a conversation... She's a very shy and awkward ESTJ (yes I asked her to do the test out of curiosity) and really, I can't handle her. Now she's asking me to meet up again. I don't know how I can avoid her without feeling bad myself.