[doublexuan]

Today I saw an article, and this person basically wrote that she doesn't understand the hype about Kate Middleton's looks (about how beautiful she is), and she personally feels that Kate is only "average looking". I know that beauty is subjective, but I got a little curious about how other people judge beauty. I tried googling "average looking", because I realized that I have no idea what average looking mean anymore. Googling did not help.

As for myself, I found that I see beauty in a very different way. In fact, I don't measure someone by beauty, but by how attractive they appear to me. I have always been confused by the conventional good-looking benchmarks, for e.g. David Beckham, Jude Law, Megan Fox. They are obviously not bad-looking, but I have a hard time figuring out why their appeal is so huge. For example, when I see Beckham, I see someone with 2 eyes, blonde hair, a good body... I guess I can intellectually try to understand the appeal, but for me he is still a guy with 2 eyes and blonde hair. As for Jude Law, all I really notice are his eyes, which seem pretty soulless to me.

People find my tastes in men strange for the most part, but for me it is the mannerisms and personality that make that person really attractive for me. I meant that quite literally. It is like beauty for me is not independent from personality at all. Argh sorry I can't explain this properly.



How do you judge beauty?

[mynameiuse]

By how attracted I am to a person. It's not something you can really put into words IMO. It's whatever you look at that makes your brain release those chemicals.

I know a few qualities of what I like. On a guy, I'd like their hair not to be super short most of the time, and a general youthful appearance and playful.

On a girl, they should be hot without overdoing it, the ones that overdue it are usually the most shallow creatures on the planet.

[kaleidoscope]

Physical attractiveness means absolutely nothing for me. I've been attracted to overweight guys, what society deems to be ugly, and what society deems to be handsome. I have my own definition of handsome and it involves no physical assets whatsoever.

I get physically attracted to guys because of the vibes they give off, the feel I get of their personality, no more no less. It could be due to humor, to sarcasm, to intellectualism, to simply a look on the person's face, to something they say, the wording of a phrase that'll make me want to know more. It could be the most ridiculous of things.

My only physical preference is hands. He has to have sexy hands.

[doublexuan]

My only physical preference is hands. He has to has sexy hands.

I totally agree! Hands and say so much about the person too...

[JoCZker]

I also dont like people I should like. :) General taste is not for me. I could hardly like someone because of her look. But when we talk about beauty as a physicall thing, what is beautifull for me are some strange little details which makes this person different than others. I dont like people who are "good looking" but look all the same . . . I need something else. Even something that is not considered handsome at all. Weird nose or something like that. :) I can fall in love with eyes, voice, smile . . . . Things like that. I mostly cant tell what is it what attract me to somebody . . .

[JoCZker]

My only physical preference is hands. He has to has sexy hands.

How does sexy hands look like? Mine are thin, shaking and full of freckles. Is it sexy? :))

[kaleidoscope]

@doublexuan

I don't know what it is, ever since forever, I immediately look at a person's hands, no matter who they are. It's somehow very telling. Over the years, it became a thing related to attractiveness. A guy could be a total jerk but if he had sexy hands, I'd kinda sorta have a soft spot for him.. I hate admitting it, but it's true.

[dann]

I think certain physical qualities are considered attractive due to evolutionary reasons. For example, often times males are attracted to the innocent "baby face" that is more youthful and thus genetically favorable to mate with.

Also, I think men are more visual and place more value on looks, compared to women. There's a quote I read somewhere that I think is very true: "Men fall in love with who they're attracted to, while women are attracted to who they fall in love with"

[eternal_horizon]

On a girl, they should be hot without overdoing it, the ones that overdue it are usually the most shallow creatures on the planet.

or the most insecure and fucked up, leading to a façade of shallowness :P


I've come to realise that I'm attracted to style,expression, body language, mannerisms, the way she presents herself over specific physical assets (but these definitely help), though a girls eyes can change everything.

I may even have a type :P

[ethylester]

I've always been attracted to guys who it seemed like the other girls didn't see what was so hot about them.

I am usually not attracted to the big muscley guys, with their square jowls and pronounced browline. i feel like that whole masculine ideal was fabricated by other men. Not necessarily gay men, but men who assume that is what a woman wants to look at. Because big muscles and a tough exterior impress other macho men, then that is what is considered attractive. No one asked the women what they actually think is good looking. I could be wrong...

i mean, look at Fabio. yuck.

also, Brad Pitt is not attractive to me. Isn't he supposed to be a sexy guy?
On the other hand, I do see what is hot about Johnny Depp.

I prefer guys who look more innocent and boyish.

BUT with all that said, if Fabio was some guy I knew and he was a sweetheart and we had a lot in common, i would probably learn to like him and eventually be attracted to him.... eventually. after a long long time.



NOT SO HOT. Sorry Fabio.