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INFP: Dreamy Idealist

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Dreamy Idealist


Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others. They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people. But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved. They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honourable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal. Joan of Arc or Sir Galahad would have been good examples of this personality type. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them. Once their enthusiasm for an issue or person is aroused, they can become tireless fighters.

For Dreamy Idealists, practical things are not really so important. They only busy themselves with mundane everyday demands when absolutely necessary. They tend to live according to the motto “the genius controls the chaos” - which is normally the case so that they often have a very successful academic career. They are less interested in details; they prefer to look at something as a whole. This means that they still have a good overview even when things start to become hectic. However, as a result, it can occasionally happen that Dreamy Idealists overlook something important. As they are very peace-loving, they tend not to openly show their dissatisfaction or annoyance but to bottle it up. Assertiveness is not one of their strong points; they hate conflicts and competition. Dreamy Idealists prefer to motivate others with their amicable and enthusiastic nature. Whoever has them as superior will never have to complain about not being given enough praise.
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As at work, Dreamy Idealists are helpful and loyal friends and partners, persons of integrity. Obligations are absolutely sacred to them. The feelings of others are important to them and they love making other people happy. They are satisfied with just a small circle of friends; their need for social contact is not very marked as they also need a lot of time to themselves. Superfluous small talk is not their thing. If one wishes to be friends with them or have a relationship with them, one would have to share their world of thought and be willing to participate in profound discussions. If you manage that you will be rewarded with an exceptionally intensive, rich partnership. Due to their high demands on themselves and others, this personality type tends however to sometimes overload the relationship with romantic and idealistic ideas to such an extent that the partner feels overtaxed or inferior. Dreamy Idealists do not fall in love head over heels but when they do fall in love they want this to be a great, eternal love.
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Adjectives which describe your type: introverted, theoretical, emotional, spontaneous, idealistic, dreamy, effusive, pleasant, reserved, friendly, passionate, loyal, perfectionist, helpful, creative, composed, curious, obstinate, with integrity, willing to make sacrifices, romantic, cautious, shy, peace-loving, vulnerable, sensitive, communicative, imaginative

Dreamy Idealist: Career


As a Dreamy Idealist you are one of the introverted personality types. Therefore you prefer a quiet work environment where you can intensively deal with your responsibilities and are not disturbed by too many people and repeated distractions. You need a lot of time to dwell on your thoughts, to put them into words, and let your ideas take shape.

You are grateful for a certain measure of order and structure because they secure the time to achieve this so you can deal with one task after the other and not have to juggle a number of responsibilities at once - you don’t like that because it is important to you to deal with things thoroughly. Your capability to concentrate is unusually great and very often you become engrossed in something and forget everything around you - even to eat and drink.

Nevertheless, because you are very adaptable, congenial and interested in harmony and cooperation, you enjoy working together with others. A neighborhood that requires the ability to assert yourself and where direct confrontations are the order of the day is not your optimal environment. In order to permit you to fully develop your ability you need an environment that is as stress free as possible. If you can’t get that you soon suffer, because you take critique and negative feedback very personally.

Dreamy Idealist: Love


Fantasies, dreams, and ideals, play an important role in your life. In your heart, you carry visions of a better world where the wolf plays with the lamb, and the creeks carry milk and honey. Naturally, this also applies to the subject of love. You are absolutely convinced that your perfect other half with whom you can merge into the perfect oneness, exists somewhere in this world. You are obviously aware that this extraordinary gift won’t just land in your lap, but you are willing to wait for a long time and sacrifice a lot, if necessary, to reach this vital goal. “Per aspera ad astra,” or “Through the night to the light,” is your motto.

As all Idealists, you tend to raise your chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person. “Idealizing” does not even begin to describe this process, „idolizing“ is probably closer to the truth. All the way up there on that pedestal, your partner is probably already getting dizzy and asking him/herself what he/she has done to deserve this unconditional adoration in the first place. But then, who would not like to see him-/herself mirrored as the perfect person in the eyes of a loving other?

On the other hand, it is a real challenge to meet your ideal of love and romance in everyday life. Sooner or later, you are going to be disappointed to find out that you haven’t gotten a hold of an angel nor a superman, but just a normal person with all the inherent strengths and weaknesses. Now the question is, can you love your partner as he/she is and not as you would like for him/her to be?

Source: iPersonic Typology
 
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I think the people around me would be terrified as to the high regard in which I hold them and God help my children if I have them!
but I think it's a good thing holding people on to high pedestals. Just because I have high expectations, doesn't necessarily mean I desire they be fulfilled. I just want people to try, nothing more, nothing less.
The day I stop having faith in people, will be the day I pack my bags for good. I'm sure your partners always know they're loved. I know personally, I try to make sure the few people who I love know that I care very deeply about them.
 
#9 ·
Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person. “Idealizing” does not even begin to describe this process, „idolizing“ is probably closer to the truth.
Ah, absoloutely perfect.
 
#10 ·
As all Idealists, you tend to raise your chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, you have excellent insight into human nature but when you are in love, you obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why you aren’t able to see even the smallest blemish on this person. “Idealizing” does not even begin to describe this process, „idolizing“ is probably closer to the truth.
Yup, that's me in a nutshell. But I like the "idolizing". Without that it doesn't feel like real love to me.
 
#11 ·
you ppl are so annoying!
as an ENFP that's strongly attracted to INFPs it gets disconcerting.. i know as soon as i sense ive met an INFP i know i can just turn on the charm for you to like me, but then as soon as i make a mistake and you realise im not perfect you switch off like *that*.. and then you dont even want to talk to me because you feel somehow let down as if i was lying to you..
 
#16 ·
I don't recall doing the pedestal thing at the beginning, only after a long while. That could be because he was doing it to me, and I didn't like it at all. It's true, I very much dislike people treating me like I'm the best thing that ever happened to their life. It just makes me feel worse when I let them down.

I do hold him on some kind of a pedestal, but I do not idolize him. I recognize plenty of his faults, but it doesn't change my image of him as a person.
 
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Huh.. the love thing is about the only thing that is NOT true for me.
...Although it was very true when I was younger, I used to hold my brother in that regard, to the length that he was some God who could do no wrong and I was his to do with as he wished - or at least that was what it felt like. Than one day when I was about 11 my whole existence seemed to go crashing down when I realized that that wasn't who he was, that he could be mean and cruel and selfish. After realizing this with such a shocking clarity I cried myself to sleep every night for about half a year and considered what would be the best ways to kill myself... anyways in the end I realized that he was a child too and didn't know how to deal with that kind of blind unconditional love.
Now a days we have a pretty good relationship, and I know that he is so much more than his bad sides, that everyone I love is, and I am always careful to remember this, and love them all the more, because that is part of who they are, and even if it's not all good and parts that they too dislike in themselves it makes me admire their other sides even more.
 
#20 ·
Wow, I really cannot believe just how much this reflects to me --completely reflects to me. Reading this actually brought me to tears thinking "Oh my God! I actually am understood in this world!"

I'm not completely surprised though. I’ve taken at least a dozen personality Test and I've seen two different
Psychologists, and everyone seems to agree that I'm a full-blown "Dreamy Idealist".
I came by the site as a guest, and simply had to join after reading this. I loved it! Very much.
I'm the oldest sibling of 12, and to everyone else in the family I'm the distant, reserved, and ---in all their opinions-- the "boring" one. I guess that's partially true... expect for that last one, lol. Overall, it’s great to know there are plenty others like me, gathering here, and I sincerely hope this will be wonderful experience! So,
Thank you all!
 
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