From what I have gathered, it seems that most INFJs are terrible liars. Is this the consensus?
I find this odd because I am a fantastic liar. I am not acting as if this is a quality that is brag-worthy, but I find it to be necessary sometimes. I lie if I am protecting myself (not in a selfish way, but such as not letting a friend know that I am in a down mood or have had a really terrible week) or if I am protecting someone else.
My friends and others around me wouldn't assume it in the least. They tell me I am a horrible liar, but, in reality, when they catch me in a lie, 99% of the time I want them to. A couple examples from just this past week are:
1. My friends received some presents at school that were unmarked and they were told not to open them until Christmas. One of my friends (she is really amazing at figuring things out) asked me if I "happened" to leave some gifts for some people. I told her I didn't know what she was talking about but I gave a very subtle smile. She noticed it and "caught" me in my lie. I left the presents unmarked because I really don't care for recognition and gratitude, but I knew if I let her know, it would be more for her being excited about the present and being proud of figuring it out than my selfish want for gratitude.
2. I have been particularly melancholy these past few weeks. Everyone has been calling me out on it-- my friends, my parents, and even my teachers. Usually I can completely mask it, and I'm sure I could even now, but I have just let it consume my demeanor. Every time someone asks if I am okay, I give a really unconvincing "Yeah, I'm fine," which they hastily reject. This is because I am in a particularly bad state, and "acting" as if I am okay is actually just my subconscious way of setting my wall really high and waiting for someone to climb over it. If I didn't want any help, I'd have my little facade and no one would notice. So, more than anything, it is a whispering cry for help (oxymoron?) and then sitting back and waiting to see who hears it.
If I had any desire to be so, I could be incredibly manipulative. I'm a good liar and a good actor, but my conscience wouldn't let me live down any manipulation.
So my question to all of you is this: How good of a liar are you?