Is this their version of opening up to someone? I find their emotional distress difficult to handle (and sometimes annoying) but of course I don't judge them for it. It's funny cause these two INFJs (one was a friend from middle school and the other is a university friend) were all polite at the beginning of our friendship then after about a month they started complaining to me about stuff that they're annoyed about, stuff they hate about themselves, stuff they're angry about involving strangers and a lot of other negative things. And most of the time, I'm confused because I don't know where they picked up all these things, there's nothing in the external environment that suggests there should be such a huge emotional upheaval. Where is all this coming from? Like there's no stranger doing such and such bad thing right now, why are they so angry about it? I even asked them if they witnessed something like that happen in the past and they said no and told me just to listen. I always hold space for their emotional ramblings though because that's what a friend should do even though I don't enjoy it.
As an INTP, I rarely get emotional about things so this makes completely no sense to me. Why are they so stressed?