[Xistiller]

... you realize you will never be able to properly express your feelings.
WELP, cuddling and supporting your decisions it is then! amirite?

Be real with me, guys. Is this an INFJ thing like I think it is?

[knittigan]

Oh, so that's what that super intense, pre-cuddling look means. I've always wondered

[ohnoezitsjoez]

I dont know about type, but I can relate to this.

I have always wondered if I am unable to express properly due to me thinking I am inadequate at expression, or me thinking she doesn't have the faculty to fully comprehend it. (and her inability to comprehend my expression is not a reflection on her, per se.)

[Noelle]

I relate in all sorts of ways, and it manifests in different ways with different people. With some people, I just want to cuddle and realize they will never be receptive.

What is even harder is when I am with someone, and am somehow internally forced to go into complete and total emotional lockdown. "I know, if I showed you my real emotions, you'd take them and run with them and I wouldn't be able to handle the consequences." Then I am UNABLE to show my soft cuddly side.

Find me the person who will be able to avoid both...and I will be their friend FOREVER.

[Vivid Melody]

I usually turn to poetry when this happens. Metaphors FTW!

[abysmalbeauty]

This generally happens when instead of talking to SO i write them a letter... at that point all hope is lost for true communication. I usually wait a little while to see how the other feels about this and its always ended in well the end.

I deep down hope that I will find my "soul mate" so to speak and that I will feel comfortable sharing with that person. I love cuddling though, that's always a nice experience. :)

[Lady Nurture]

I've written small cards, cards on special occasions, poetry and a letter or two and I used to hand out chocolates on significant days. This was, however, a first relationship between ages 16-17.
I've been told specifically that I speak in metaphors and that when I believe in something, I mask it as a generalization.
"Well I think for some..." or "For others, I think...", etc. and I'll share my own conviction.
Perhaps it is hiding. However, no one can truly own another's essence, so I know that just through language, interpretation, something essential is lost. I do not have to hide for this to be true.
Unfortunately, it's either you understand or you don't.
If you don't, it comes down to belief.
Is an intuitive overzealous or highly protective of their inner structure? I am. Can it be a huge risk to allow someone a glimpse, to allow them even the slightest influence for fear of a shift or significant change? Yes, it is. Because if something is misplaced or inadvertently skewered within by someone else, you blame yourself for not having been strong enough to keep them out. A question: What is strength when inactive? Untested, unproven potential. What connection is absolutely without risk?
None. A connection is just that: Openness. A challenge.
Whatever may come from that, I assure you, you are strong enough.
Share what you can and all else, enjoy it. In the end, being in love is just as much an internal journey, an exploration of yourself as it is about what is shared.

[keelysmith]

Alas, I actually thought for a good period of my life that I was OVERLY affectionate and that I demonstrated as clearly as I felt my feelings (side note:I know I need sleep I typed 'feelies' instead of 'feelings' first try..), I've realized that what I perceive to be me being open and warm and affectionate, doesn't always appear that way to the people around me. I've come off as distant sometimes I think, when I'm really trying to be close.

[little infinity]

LOL. This is so true.

Things I hear all the time: "I show you I love you by touching you!" and "Umm, let me write down how I feel. I have to think about it." etc...

Meanwhile, this extrovert is like, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT?! DON'T YOU LOVE ME?"

Oh, that poor boy. I don't know how he puts up with me.

[The Proof]

LOL. This is so true.

Things I hear all the time: "I show you I love you by touching you!" and "Umm, let me write down how I feel. I have to think about it." etc...

Meanwhile, this extrovert is like, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT?! DON'T YOU LOVE ME?"

Oh, that poor boy. I don't know how he puts up with me.

I don't know how you put up with him, needy much?