[Xiong Mao]

@March Thank you for your feedback! You've given me much to think about.

[CptKickerCutleg]

All I'd suggest is that with the last letter, you sign it.

Just the last one.

[Xiong Mao]

All I'd suggest is that with the last letter, you sign it.

Just the last one.

Lol! I've always thought about doing this! But odds are she'll decipher my identity beforehand, which means that my system of imposing delayed gratification would work. Also, how do I know which letter is the last one? I was planning to send them in 5 years, but I was never planning to stop writing. As far as I'm concerned I'll be writing forever. (Maybe I should write a death letter to be signed and included in my will...but maybe that would break her heart...)

EDIT: She's also very smart and likely to open the last one beforehand after she reads a couple and realizes that they have no name.

[Tenshi]

@INTJ_Eagle

Okay so...

First off, I'm still confused about where you two (used to) stand. What kind of a relationship was it? How did you meet? How much did you spend time together? How do you think she felt about you before things turned bad?

If her leaving had to do with ethics, is it possible that you were doing something unethical that bothered her, or do you think it was more likely her who was having trouble being ethical with you?

Do you think she might have known your obsession from the beginning and maybe that's what put her off in the first place? That would also explain her explanation of ethics (Maybe she felt like she was leading you on. Especially since she was older than you). it would also explain why she would say that she'll call the cops? Do you think she has an idea of you as an obsessed stalker freak?

...Because if she does, letters are a bad idea?

Buut, if it's nothing like that...Well, I'll give a different answer once you've answered some of my questions here. :)

Also are you sure she REALLY mean't the 5 years thing? Maybe if you always hid your feelings, she was hoping more from you. Maybe she was even testing you? For me, the fact that someone would just accept to not see me for 5 years would be a sign of them not really caring. I might say that but in my head I'd hope for them to not give up. But then again, that might not be the case this time. Obviously, if she really did mean it, it's whole another story.

I also think that 60 letters are excessive. Once there's that many, they lose meaning. I read a few of your letters by the way, and one especially brought tears to my eyes. (09/19/10). It made me long for such a guardian angel as you. At the same time it was simply so moving. You are an excellent writer by the way. I hope you pursue it. I didn't expect them to be so beautiful. In fact the (09/19/10) one was probably the best love letter I've ever read.

Anyhow, even if you were to write 60 letters, why give them all to her at the same time? Why not give them one by one, one per month for example? This would make her eager to receive the next one too (maybe), instead of SUPER MEGA freaking her out all at once (I'm pretty sure that'd happen). This way you could also start sending her those letters already, instead of a few years from now. The better the sooner I think. Time heals wounds, and she may have already forgotten of you (since a 3 month relationship is really brief). Unless the relationship was very special. Special ones are never forgotten. :)

But that doesn't mean that she'd welcome you 5 years after it all ended. But as I said, if you REALLY INSIST it being 5 years before SEEING her, then why not send the letters sooner, one by one? (But hopefully not as many as 60 all together...)

[Xiong Mao]

@INTJ_Eagle

Okay so...

First off, I'm still confused about where you two (used to) stand. What kind of a relationship was it? How did you meet? How much did you spend time together? How do you think she felt about you before things turned bad?

If her leaving had to do with ethics, is it possible that you were doing something unethical that bothered her, or do you think it was more likely her who was having trouble being ethical with you?

Do you think she might have known your obsession from the beginning and maybe that's what put her off in the first place? That would also explain her explanation of ethics (Maybe she felt like she was leading you on. Especially since she was older than you). it would also explain why she would say that she'll call the cops? Do you think she has an idea of you as an obsessed stalker freak?

...Because if she does, letters are a bad idea?

Buut, if it's nothing like that...Well, I'll give a different answer once you've answered some of my questions here. :)

I'll PM you some more details when I get the chance. (If that's ok with you of course. ) Right now I'm about to head to class...Anatomy and Physiology Lab. (You know for an INTJ "scientist" I suck at science classes. )

Also are you sure she REALLY mean't the 5 years thing? Maybe if you always hid your feelings, she was hoping more from you. Maybe she was even testing you? For me, the fact that someone would just accept to not see me for 5 years would be a sign of them not really caring. I might say that but in my head I'd hope for them to not give up. But then again, that might not be the case this time. Obviously, if she really did mean it, it's whole another story.

Honestly, I thought she said that just to be sarcastic. Maybe she didn't think I would take her seriously. I don't know, but I'm always true to my word.

I also think that 60 letters are excessive. Once there's that many, they lose meaning. I read a few of your letters by the way, and one especially brought tears to my eyes. (09/19/10). It made me long for such a guardian angel as you. At the same time it was simply so moving. You are an excellent writer by the way. I hope you pursue it. I didn't expect them to be so beautiful. In fact the (09/19/10) one was probably the best love letter I've ever read.

Thank you! That is one of the few that I am most proud of. Unfortunately, writing is something I cannot pursue as a career, but I will certainly keep it as a hobby.

Anyhow, even if you were to write 60 letters, why give them all to her at the same time? Why not give them one by one, one per month for example? This would make her eager to receive the next one too (maybe), instead of SUPER MEGA freaking her out all at once (I'm pretty sure that'd happen). This way you could also start sending her those letters already, instead of a few years from now. The better the sooner I think. Time heals wounds, and she may have already forgotten of you (since a 3 month relationship is really brief). Unless the relationship was very special. Special ones are never forgotten. :)

But that doesn't mean that she'd welcome you 5 years after it all ended. But as I said, if you REALLY INSIST it being 5 years before SEEING her, then why not send the letters sooner, one by one? (But hopefully not as many as 60 all together...)

I wanted to give them to her one by one...but I decided not to and the dates have already passed.

[Tenshi]

I'll PM you some more details when I get the chance. (If that's ok with you of course. )

It's definitely ok, feel free to PM. :)

[CptKickerCutleg]

She's also very smart and likely to open the last one beforehand after she reads a couple and realizes that they have no name.

Damn those smart people and their insufferable intuitive logic!

[Xiong Mao]

Damn those smart people and their insufferable intuitive logic!

Haha. I can't blame her...that's something I'd do to. Lol.