[Diligent Procrastinator]

WTF... If it's a "let's all put something in to have an awesome party" kind of thing, no problem, but if they invited me over and the stuff was already there?! WTF?! I would never go there again. If they need money they should stop wasting it on junk food.

[jd_]

OR if you do go back, bring something way better than what they are serving and say, "No thanks. I've brought my own steak tartar, caviar, geitost, pate de fois gras, baguette and Sachertorte. You enjoy your pizza, though!" If you really want to be sarcastic, next take out a couple of tea bags and ask how much you'd be charged for a cup of boiling water. Or just dump'em.

I actually did already that evening, I brought some antipasta, cheese stuffed olives, artichoke hearts, peppadews etc. from whole foods I just happened to get earlier and a 6 pack of microbrew and put it in their fridge haha. I had other plans that evening, but they invited me over so I stopped by for a few hours before going somewhere else. So yes it was definitely better than el cheapo pizza and whatever else was there (I saw some natural light and cheap whiskey) not my scene at all...I probably wouldn't have gone back regardless . And yes it was Like I said, if I never show up empty handed, anywhere. I will stop at a cupcake shop or something just for stopping by and saying hey, that is just the type of person I am and why I was so angry.

And no they didn't ask anybody else for money that I'm aware of. I don't know them that well.

anyway I had brought it up now and they have since apologized and were embarassed.

Some people just like to ask for money and if they are successful will continue to ask.

Yes... could be that, b/c they asked again for the same amount before I even showed up the second time. Needless to say I didn't go.

[fffffffffffffigs]

It was definitely kind of sleazy but I think some of you guys are being a little too harsh. I don't really think WHAT the guy did was rude, just the way he did it. Not a lot of tact. I was taught to share too, but sharing is hard when you hardly have enough for yourself. I don't know this guy's situation, and none of you did either before jd_ said something (and even then, a lot of people are secretive about their finances). You all were so quick to call him cheap and rude.

If you had a problem with what he did you should have told him then and there instead of jumping to conclusions and inflaming people here in the process. I think it's wrong for you to assume he was purposely being sneaky or something. I've been on the receiving end of that kind of judgement and it really hurts.

[jd_]

It was definitely kind of sleazy but I think some of you guys are being a little too harsh. I don't really think WHAT the guy did was rude, just the way he did it. Not a lot of tact. I was taught to share too, but sharing is hard when you hardly have enough for yourself. I don't know this guy's situation, and none of you did either before jd_ said something (and even then, a lot of people are secretive about their finances). You all were so quick to call him cheap and rude.

If you had a problem with what he did you should have told him then and there instead of jumping to conclusions and inflaming people here in the process. I think it's wrong for you to assume he was purposely being sneaky or something. I've been on the receiving end of that kind of judgement and it really hurts.

As you know, or should being an INFJ... I am generally opposed to conflict, "stopping somebody then and there" on the spot is not the easiest thing to do, especially when you are in a state of disbelief. I never said anything about sleazy, I just said it was rude (no matter the motive), which I still think it is, and the person also agreed with who did it. Also if you read, it wasn't a one time occurrence but a developing *trend*. I'm not assuming anything either... The only assumption is bad etiquette. Also, conclusions are different than speculations.
Anyway it is over with now, I addressed it with them, so, this thread can be killed as far as I'm concerned, I would delete it if I could or next time just post in the venting thread.

[Veggie]

You were hanging out with tightwads. Not many people seem to have any manners or class anymore. So that being the case, either say f**k it and do what you want to and slap their n**s and chide them in return for acting like trash if they want to get at you for being "rude" or just suck it up and be mannerly yourself and either pay them because thats something that you can control and to show that You care about other people, even if they don't care about you, or continue to show up with that wine and cheese and then vent here on the INFJ board where I'm sure many others will relate (also, maybe find new friends? there are some of circles of friends left where no one has to feel like the sugar daddy OR tightwad, regardless of salary, bc money is just more fluid) :) A truly mannerly person will offer you the shirt off their back. The expression exists for a reason. Anyone else, is yes, stingy, although they could probably put up a hell of fight to convince you otherwise. I'm not usually (ever?) so blunt, but this is one thread I know I won't feel guilty about and edit after being so honest. Stingy people annoy the f out of me, and if they want to be that way, cool, but they shouldn't ever try to convince me of why I should still be friends with them for being so. It's such a buzzkill and a drag. Just reminds me all the more that we all have to live in a world where we have to eat other living sentients to survive...and then I just don't feel like abiding by any social conventions (nut slap and free meal anybody?) Cant we all just give to each other to make it a little more civil? GD...if the money were a condition for buying the pizza in the first place I would say that this was different, but if it were just there...

[Vivid Melody]

Hmmm now I want pizza and some antipasta and those artichoke hearts you brought. Okay sorry, letting the thread die now ;)