[eros5th]

Do you ever feel like you're lost in your own dreams or ideals? Sometimes I feel like I have this dream or ideal I want so bad and if it's not possible to have I'll become so stubborn I'd prefer to just live in a dream world instead of deal with reality...



Sometimes I find reality to be so different from what I wish it were that in order to deal with it I develop psychological problems I guess from not being a good "coper." So it's so tempting sometime to just escape reality as much as possible or completely.

Anybody else feel this way? And how do you cope?

I feel if I give up these "dreams" reality is just not really worth living. But if I keep comparing reality to these ideals I have then I just become depressed because reality isn't as nice as all the great things we can imagine and dream. Is there then any way to truly be happy?

[unico]

I am not good at coping with problems or letdowns at all. I also fail to deal well with change. I do have a lot of fantasies about how I'd like things in life to go. I keep them relatively realistic, for the most part, though. Otherwise I get too depressed when life fails to live up to those expectations. I do shut myself off from a lot of unpleasant reality, though.

[Jamie.Ether]

I feel this way at times also. I realize that the way things are now is so different from how I want them to be, it can be depressing. It's important to make peace with the present and all it's imperfections. i hear that INFJ's get better at this as they grow older and the Se develops more. Our intuition can keep our minds on our dreams and the future. It is important to slow down though, don't get too far ahead of yourself. I'm still working on the "one step at a time" thing.

[firelink]

define what you want , and follow your dream, make plan to make it true .

That s how I leave these 10 years ago and i m feeling better :)

[firelink]

Organise all your ideas that give your intuition. It take time but the result will be much enjoyable. Plan it truely in long run ( i mean even for entire life you want ) and everyday do something to make it progress . You can use Gant chart tools and Pert chart . I use it this tools GanttProject Home a free software project run on win , mac and linux.
Make automatic pert chart.



That s how I live these 10 years ago and i m feeling better :)

[ichibi]

I see what I want to do, try to find every step that leads to it (i can write or draw it), I go backwards, so it leads down to the first step and then I try and follow it. But those are the more realistic dreams...

[angularvelocity]

Sometimes too many ideas of ideals conflict with each other. Like I see rural areas being ideal for me. But then I see urban areas being ideal. And then suburban areas being ideal. Wtf. I guess I'll be happy whereever I live..

[Azure Bass]

I guess we could learn from the analytical people here..I've heard that balance is key in our world. A friend of mine showed me about the dichotomy between introspection and extrospection (which isn't a word, but self envelopment isn't a widely known concept either...).

If we're dreaming, maybe we should introspect.
If we're putting ourselves down, maybe we should look outside ourselves and appreciate both what we've done and what is around us. Se may be inferior but Fe is auxilary.