Then things were going ok but he recently broke up with me, saying he loves me but he doesn't think he can ever make me happy but we've stayed in contact lots and I couldn't define our relationship now but the uncertainty of it all has been quite stressful. I feel like I just need to know exactly where I am and what's going to happen but he seems completely stuck in this place where he can't be with me but can't let me go.
The times when we've been together and it's been working have been amazing, we have amazing fun and cuddles together he can be so caring and understanding but like you say I've often felt like I've wasted my time going to see him (we were in a LDR too!) because he seemed more interested in pursuing his hobbies than spending time with me. Also, particularly when he's stressed he just cannot seem to make a decision on anything and it drives me insane!