[Dauntless]

I've never actually tried.:blushed:

To each their own :mellow: but I have been active all my life and I think because INFJs feel so much so often, depression can hover nearby. I do know that even if I just walk it feels good to be moving.

I hope you find something that fits for you and feels good! roud:

 

[goastfarmer]

To each their own :mellow: but I have been active all my life and I think because INFJs feel so much so often, depression can hover nearby. I do know that even if I just walk it feels good to be moving.

I hope you find something that fits for you and feels good! roud:

I have gotten in the habit of take long walks around my neighborhood at night. Besides it simply feeling good to get out and move about, I am far too restless to stay in my small room for very long. Though, I get the urge the most to go out walking when there is something on my mind. When my mind is restless, my body becomes restless.

So... You know your an INFJ when you go out for a walk to clear your mind, but your feet start to hurt long before your mind starts to settle down.

 

[hneuharth9692]

I believe people are generally good and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. This may mean I am labeled as naive. Also, I believe I can read people-I'm a people watcher. I absolutely hate conflict and wanted to find a career that incorporated my love of people and love of intellectual thinking. The past few years, I have explored this frustration by getting a B.A in psychology, becoming a freelance writer and finally working two jobs in human services...now I've decided to go earn my Ph.D in counseling psychology. Sometimes, I feel so overwelmed with emotion when I think about people suffering...ext. that I cry and when I get too stressed out, I become physically sick. After finding out I am an INFJ, I was shocked at how accurate my personality is with this type. But then being an INFJ, I started to question how this type was researched, how assessments were developed and whether I should accept this as MY type!

 

[Hokahey]

when you order something at a fast food resturant you get a little ways away and realize they messed up the order, yet you don't go back to complain or correct it because you feel you would be "bugging" them and you realize mistakes happen and just fix it yourself.

 

[courtleigh]

you have the "You can tell me, you can trust me" Stamp on your forehead, to the point that when you find yourself waiting in public places (airports, the post office etc.) people around you feel compelled to give you the entire stories of their existence...

This resonates with me. I can't tell you how many times random people have walked up to me and started to tell me about their problems. Just last week some random crying girl spilled her guts to me. I love to help people though so I don't mind too much..I'm going to school to be a counselor

 

[musicman]

- You know you're an INFJ if you write something then before posting you stop to reread it to be sure that what you have written is grammatically correct.
- You know you're an INFJ if you've ever found yourself lonely in a room full of people.
- You know you're an INFJ if you suddenly feel a sense of relief with every person that leaves the group.
- You know you're an INFJ if you find yourself falling into a deep thought of ideas and then later wake up and realize you're lacking real friends then get depressed.
- You know you're an INFJ if you are very stubborn in your ideas.
- You know you're an INFJ if you consistently have trouble enjoying the moment because you are always looking ahead at what will be to figure out what you need to do today in order to reach the future outcome.
- ... and sometimes you'll look back to the past instead of living in the present as well.
- You know you're an INFJ if you catch yourself trying to read people to figure out what they internally think and feel by simply observing them.
- You know you're an INFJ when someone asks you about a person you just met a week ago and you can list off several things about that person even if you have barely talked to them.
- You know you're an INFJ if you find yourself being too cautious because you are too busy looking ahead at what could be.


Ok, I think that's all I can think of right now... anybody else??:happy:

Wow, I literally do all of those things. Every last one.

 

[Dauntless]

Wow, I literally do all of those things. Every last one.

We all do. That is INFJ and why we're here! :happy:

 

[VioletHaze]

When you observe and notice behaviours of a certain person, (in which they think that you're completely oblivious or couldn't possibly know what they're up to) which helps later on in determining whether they're the type of person who you can trust, gotta love that NF trait~

 

[VioletHaze]

When you dont want to engage in small talk at work (or basically anywhere) or put up with people's bs or drama,...if you see us sitting or doing something relaxing, quietly by ourselves, that doesn't mean it's an open invitation to pour out all your problems, we have our limits*

 

[fire469]

You know you're an INFJ when everything you do is wrong, although you had good intentions.
Then you really know you're an INFJ if you beat yourself up about it for ages afterwards.
You also know you're an INFJ when all you really want, deep down, is to be loved and love someone in return.
It further confirms you are an INFJ when you feel depressed because you think you are too different to be loved.

That reminds me of my best friend who's an infp

 

[thegirlcandance]

... when you know that you're truly a weird individual but nobody else sees that. (Except for maybe ENTPs and ENFPs :tongue: )

... when people think you are very organized, but you believe it is just an optical illusion because in your mind you're a scatter brained mess -- if you did not follow routines you would lose your head.

... when you run into things because you're too busy daydreaming.

... when you find yourself being rather hard on yourself if you feel you were perhaps not as successful as a peer.

... when its difficult for you to focus on the now because you're always dreaming about the next step.

 

[heavysteps]

so true

When you dont want to engage in small talk at work (or basically anywhere) or put up with people's bs or drama,...if you see us sitting or doing something relaxing, quietly by ourselves, that doesn't mean it's an open invitation to pour out all your problems, we have our limits*

I was told that I was non confrontational at work and people took that as me being hostile and not liking my job. ugh. this bothered me so much! Just because i go into work, do my thing, and leave not really caring that much about talking about the weather doesn't mean I don't like you or hate my job.

 

[heavysteps]

14) When being alone sucks but it's the only way to be free.

So True!

SO TRUE. beautifully stated!

 

[heavysteps]

In High School....
I was the girl who never got asked out on a date
I was the girl who people spoke highly of but who nobody tried to get to know
I was the girl who day dreamed about college when everybody else only cared about that night's party
I was the girl who never really fit in. and still doesn't.
I was the girl nobody ever really saw

 

[Hokahey]

When you need a test's results to explain your personality and why you are the way you are, and then when you need a forum online just to find others who you can finally actually relate to and are the same as you.

 

[Hokahey]

In High School....
I was the girl who never got asked out on a date
I was the girl who people spoke highly of but who nobody tried to get to know
I was the girl who day dreamed about college when everybody else only cared about that night's party
I was the girl who never really fit in. and still doesn't.
I was the girl nobody ever really saw

The same, except I was the guy, lol.

Oh also I never really dreamt about college, but I did dream about something outside of the next 3 hours of my life.

 

[want4rain]

You know you're INFJ when-

Your courage is this vast creature that seems to have a life of it's own and it's hell bent on destroying you.

Your letters of reproach (because we don't *say* these things, someone might miss a very important, subtle point) reduces even the most self centered, shallow minded being to self loathing. It doesn't stop there... even that most base, selfish creature is inspired... if only briefly, to self improvement.

You tell your loved ones that you're going to manipulate them, for their own good and then detail how that will happen. You then execute this plan flawlessly, everything goes as planned and they knowingly follow the brief path you laid out for them. At the end of it all, you watch as this transformation takes place and as this amazing creature takes flight, you are already thinking on the next task, the next mending because that creature wasn't your doing, it wasn't your creation, you were simply the method of liberation for the beautiful thing inside.

You understand that you are a remarkable individual in this world of human beings but recognize that we are not just human beings. We are part of this planet sized organism and in the grand picture of things, we are but this tiny, insignificant speck... humanity is the least conforming body part. As a whole, humanity is a selfish thing, lacking harmony and connection in our scrambling to find some unknown. Then you think to yourself, "I would have been more proud to be a fish, or a junco, perhaps the tiny vole?" In the end, your thoughts meander back around to seeing all of the beauty in man and his creations (all the while being annoyed that you refer to man as a 'him') and his loves and his vision and inspiration... -Breaks!!!- How can we show them what we see?? If even John Lennon and his catchy tunes couldn't change the world... When Jesus and Ghandi and Mother Theresa... Who are we but nobodies.

You don't concern yourself with your own appearances until mid 20's at the earliest. Prior to that, you are too busy or simply unconcerned with physical appearances. When you do realize that others wear make up and pretty clothes... you fumble around for 5 years trying to emulate that, only to give up until your mid 40's when you have gathered enough information to pull it off. (Wait.... is that my NT side speaking??)

You're terrified of making an immoral decision, you question and question everything you think in an effort to make the most moral, fair, balanced and humanitarian decisions and actions.

Harmony is visible. You can see it with your own eyes as if you have something in addition to those rods and cones. It is a visible connection between people, emanating from our bodies like a flash light behind your hand.

You are aware that the sun might not rise tomorrow, every day.

When you feel responsible because you're aware.

You do your best thinking in the quiet before the house wakes up, you wake in the middle of the night with the most brilliant thoughts and your solitary shower is the highlight of your day.

You've come up with an alternate list of INFJ traits that subtly slips in bits and pieces of songs that speak to your soul but don't publish it on a forum because you know no one listens to the same music and aren't moved by the things you are.

You have a difficult time leaving a destructive relationship because the person you are in love with is not a BAD person, just bad for you.

You feel perpetually stuck in the spaces between rain drops. Everyone loves the rain, they dance in it and feel alive but I'm between those spaces where people dance solitary to connect with the others who dance in the rain. I'm invisible.

You have a deep and profound awareness of others personal boundaries and rights. It is the only thing that prevents your manipulations from stepping past the boundaries of personal rights and individual will. I know that I have unique tools to help you accomplish what you want to but I will not use them unless you permit me to.

Your awareness of the human experience does not allow forgiveness for a gross breach of trust.

You feel humanity to be a clumsy neanderthal. (I think this is a qualifier for just about any F though.)

You feel you should probably make a flow chart to help others understand the impact of their actions on you. (How NT of me.)

You need the buy-in of your partner before ending a relationship.

"Dave Matthews Band - American baby intro (Fenway park 7-8-2006)" (Didn't want to post a link but) This song is it. Totally.

You take everything seriously.

People tell you that you think to hard, all the time.

Puns are the highest form of humor.

Interrupting train of thought is like a slap to the face.

Some great expressions, folks!! Thanks for sharing!! (Though I didn't make it through all 25 pages!)

 

[want4rain]

Oh, and I remember, as a child, making the conscious decision to be OK that they also squished bees in my apple cider as I watched the process at the apple orchard in St John's, MI.

(Holy crap!! 30 pages! whoops!)

And I recall telling someone that I don't ever get bored, I always have my own mind to play in... at 15.

 

[want4rain]

My mums an INFJ and I'd say you know you're an INFJ when you continue to rescue those people who let you down, over and over again...you never forget what they did, and you like to constantly remind them of what these failures have been, but nevertheless, you continue to save the ones you love. Your minds seem to have categorized every event in your relationship history, and you know when and where such instances that you love to bring up to the surface occurred. You will protect and guard your people, even to the point of damage to yourself. Sometimes it is rightly so that you remind your people of where they went wrong, because you are there for people when they don't even deserve it.

When you consider your beloved pet to be your best friend, the one that isn't capable of letting you down or betraying you because animals are innocent and love you no matter what. You almost have a psychic connection to your pet/s, and you are definitely their favourite person in the whole entire world. They would defend even if they died doing so.

When you put a very tough face on to the world, but inside you are very gentle and sensitive, but you are fearful of many people knowing this...so you can say harsh things or speak bluntly to perpetuate the sense of tough strength, hiding the very vulnerable centre. You are brave fighters, and you've always had to be ever since you can remember. You've had to be strong for yourself and everyone else.

You make huge sacrifices for the ones you love. You don't give it much thought, and you put your needs last.

I found this post to be rather remarkable. Thank you.



On another note, it seems like there are so many depressed and unhealthy minded INFJ's here(I do not mean to pass negative judgment!!! Just an observation of how others chose to represent themselves and their uniqueness here!!!) I hope you all are receptive to the peace and serenity that life offers us at every turn. If you are open to feeling the love of the world, it will be come apparent when you need it most. You can not truly love another until you learn to see and love your self and yourself. The gifts you have to offer the world will go largely unnoticed but it will echo out from all of the different places you touch and it WILL change the world.

A bit from Desiderata by Max Ehrmann (I keep this on my bookmark bar and look at it often.)

"Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should."

 

[Syrus Magistus]

I suppose you know when somebody's bad news even when you're the only one that thinks so for the right reasons, and it's never quite surprising when you're proven right beyond any shadow of a doubt. You know like Cassandra. It's always weird to be that one person that wasn't surprised when people reveal their true colors. If anything, you're proven right far beyond your own imagination.

You also may find yourself, and I"m not kidding, with the secrets of the universe unfolding at your fingertips. You certainly weren't too pleased when you discovered ugly realities like trauma-based mind control, but those prehistoric megalithic sunken cities they found around the world came before your eyes well before that documentary on the History Channel.

You were definitely incensed when you read about MK-ULTRA. You had to ponder that mysterious term your whole life before you finally read about it by chance for the pieces to fall together. Only after you learned that all the elements were real in advance. Good times.