An INFJ (4w3) friend of mine was talking to me on Skype last night about getting a name change. She talks a lot about wanting to create a completely new identity for herself, and a new story, and she thinks her old name holds her back. However, she said she wants to lose weight before she's done with her current 'character' to have a happy ending to that chapter of her life.
She came to me because, apparently, I have my feet on the ground. But really, that's all I could offer her - telling her that, realistically, getting to average weight and changing your name could make her happier, but it wouldn't solve anything. I couldn't get much further than that.
While I've toyed with the idea of creating a character to play when I'm around people who don't know me, this is something completely different that I've not had a lot of experience in. I've not always liked my name, but I've never felt restricted by it. I've never truly wanted to start over (except for that naive period when I began high school, but that was pretty short-lived), and I've always felt that everything I've done in my life is important to who I am - throwing it away wouldn't be right.
So I'm here for some insight.
How many of you have had these feelings? Have any of you gone through serious identity changes? Have any of you changed your name completely for this purpose? How did it work out? Would you say this is a really bad idea, or a really good one?
Thanks in advance.