Not so long ago, I came to realisation about who I had a sort of casual relationship/fling with and slight crush on turned out to be a complete full-blown Sociopath/Psychopath with a lot of criminal tendencies and history...
Based upon my observations and experiences with him, it was extremely difficult to find any sort of emotional common ground nor expect any kind of empathy or basic decency from this person. I was so surprised but very soon popped up in my head the word 'Sociopath'. This was, nevertheless, rather amusing for me mainly due to its irony. I always knew that I am a very emotionally needy, helplessly narcissistic, really hopeless and wishy-washy emotive kind of person, and I was attracted to the complete opposite type at the same time wanting, expecting the impossible warm, gentle, soft, sensitive, emotive, personal, intimate, nourishing things from someone who is hard-wired for apathetic self-interest, austere, goal-driven, opportunistic, logical processes!
It was very hard to discuss the idea of 'honesty' with him. As I was trying to explain to him that I have a certain need to share honesty with someone to feel closer to them and I got some very interesting reactions!! I tried very hard not to judge him and appreciate him for his own personalities, but in the end, I found it hard not to ignore how selfish and completely apathetic one can get, it got worse very quickly!
There were still a very few interesting traits that I witnessed: He was emotionally independent or maybe that category was minimal to him. Very much detached from other people's emotions, hence extremely manipulative to a degree that mess up with your own head (I'm not sure if it is a good thing in ethical sense but in survival terms, it might be beneficial under certain circumstances). Believe or not, on a superficial level he had very good social skills but soon after you realise a pattern: it is utterly, purely for self-interest! Although there were times when he was extremely sensitive to any critical suggestions, and he had weird ideas about always being right and the existence of the absolute truth and justice and so on!! (and i was arguing about how people can have different perceptions and truths depending on their world view and so on!!) Plus he is very focused and goal-orientated, doesn't quite easily give up or get distracted. I felt that if he had a different kind of upbringing, or made different choices, he could have done real good things for himself and other people.
Evolution does seem to play a lot of game to our emotional realities.. and I ask myself, is there anything that can be studied from sociopathic behaviours and actually find a way to emulate that process for a better, more humanitarian use?