[red riding hood]

Ok here is a weird dual aspect of my personality. I am by nature a peaceful person, I love and want to take care of other people, but on the flip side, it takes about two seconds of me seeing someone hurt a person I care for and I turn into a raging lunatic, who will just as easily kick your butt between your shoulder blades as look at you.

Some one could smack me in the face a hundred times and really I could care less I would say is that all you have? and turn the other cheek a dozen times. I would probably not raise a hand to hurt them back, but hurt my family or friends and the Lord better have mercy on you because I probably will not. I literally once jumped on a guys back and bit his ear because he was trying to sneak up and hit one of my friends from behind.

I know that is not a good way to be, but there are these conflicting side to me, one wants to love and care for all people but the other will do almost anything to protect the people I love.



Do any other INFJ types find that they are kind of both lovers and fighters at the same time? And have a hard time reconciling and understanding that?

[Alysaria]

I think it's one of the most endearing traits of the INFJ. You're protectors. It frustrates my INTJ friend that his INFJ wife won't stand up for herself....but I love how willing she is to rise to the challenge of defending her loved ones. >.> I think you just have to trick yourself into believing that helping yourself is going to help others. It's true, in a way. I mean, how will you keep your family and friends safe if anything happens to you? Someone taking advantage of you is trying to hurt them!

[Bonne]

Yes, completely! I really don't mind if people I don't know are rude to me, that's their problem. But I do have a horrible tendency to snap at people who've upset someone I love, and I feel horribly guilty about it if I realise I've overreacted. I'm especially protective of my partner, in part because I know he's much more sensitive than people might think.

[Bean]

Absolutely, I'm a peace-loving hippie-type mama, but mess with one of my loved ones and I have very few qualms about tearing your arm off and beating you to death with it. Because you deserved it. And then I'll go make cookies with my kids.

[Maethirion]

Yeah, same here, but I tend to be more defensive, even if it's not to protect others. If someone slaps me I will react, though I don't know if I'd start a fight, it depends on who it is I guess. I'm not going to allow someone to beat me up, no way.

[Selene]

I'm generally not vengeful, because I'm able to look at the other person's actions and understand why they're being an asshole. But yeah, if you do manage to do something that I think is immoral and completely irrational/unjustifiable to the point of just being completely ruthless/inconsiderate...then I'm a hater. :p

[kdm1984]

Heh heh, yes.

[Ronald Lewis]

I am definitely both a lover and a fighter. People have seen me both in a quiet and passionate state. My ex has seen my angry side. The public has seen me talk about current events, government, and more at events, etc. I've jumped on bullhorns to talk to large crowds. It really varies. :-)

[R22]

yup, totally. In fact, this side surprises people I know because I normally come across as nice & like I have a lot of patience & can usually go with the flow. But cross someone I care about (or someone who can't help themselves) and I can scare people half to death just by looking at them (LOL!)

[HollyGolightly]

I think we a lovers but that's why we fight, we fight to protect people because we are full of love for human beings.
That's the way I see it anyway.