[Kadois]

Oh, believe me, it's not just you INFJ's. I think a lot of people change their humor/attitude/language depending on who they're with. I mean, think about it, you wouldn't talk the same to your math professor as you would to your close friends. Chances are you'll be more formal and polite to the teacher while you're very casual and playful with close friends.

I agree but I'd like to point out that it's a different process. INFJs and ISFPs have a way of getting to the same conclusions (or acting alike) through different paths. You guys identify a social stigma (treat others accoring to social rank or whatever) and perceive that as something you should do. We, as I posted above, do something completely different - although in the end we have similar results.

[ohTOMICho]

Yes, yes, yes. I would subconsciously mold my personality to fit the person I'm with. I'm genuine with everyone, so I don't think that's being "fake". Just extremely cautious and...wary of who I allow to see the "real" me.

Whoever that may be.

[Carbodarah]

Oh, believe me, it's not just you INFJ's. I think a lot of people change their humor/attitude/language depending on who they're with. I mean, think about it, you wouldn't talk the same to your math professor as you would to your close friends. Chances are you'll be more formal and polite to the teacher while you're very casual and playful with close friends.

I think you missed part of what I was saying hun
(My example was acting respectful around your parents and more crazy around your friends)
I'm aware that my example and your example applies to all types

As I said, it goes beyond that

[PlushWitch]

I can relate as well. And it even resulted in not passing an assessment...haha...still talking about it... One reason I didn't pass was because I didn't make a competent impression. But that was because I was around tutors/assessors (not because I think i'm inferior or something). And I'm totally different towards them than I am towards clients/patients. And I can't to turn it off somehow.

And I do it all the time...yeah, I also feel that being myself (whatever that is ) wouldn't be accepted by others. But I don't know if I've tried. Or probably I'm myself too often and that's why I'm having problems...uh...dunno...either or neither might be true.

[mikesw3b]

I can relate to this is well.

Oh, believe me, it's not just you INFJ's. I think a lot of people change their humor/attitude/language depending on who they're with. I mean, think about it, you wouldn't talk the same to your math professor as you would to your close friends. Chances are you'll be more formal and polite to the teacher while you're very casual and playful with close friends.

This is true as well because at my job I see my co-workers acting so differently with other people than if they were talking to me.

[countrycat335]

Yes I definitely do this. It can be a little weird when the two people I'm completely different around are both hanging out with me! I think I just intuitively pick up on the vibes of someone and just match them. I bet if I could see auras, I would see my aura moving to match the person I'm talking to.

[Bluesummers]

Applies to me as well. For me, I act differently around different people because that's what makes them comfortable. Some people see it as being disingenuous, but I don't feel like I'm being different, so much as it is that I change the way I convey my thoughts. I just express them in different manners when I'm with different people to be more easily understood.

[IndieGo]

I don't think of myself as having different personas or masks, rather that I have many many layers, and I only peel back so many depending on who I am with. That way I am not being false, but merely choosing who I trust enough allow to know me on a deeper level. Plus, certain people bring out certain qualities in me that others simply cannot unlock. There is nothing fake about it, and I am learning to incorporate my different facets into one, true "me" that I feel comfortable sharing with people more readily :)

[vagus]

I'm a mirror. I reflect what people want to see. That's why I'm well liked. Always have been. It's deceptive though.

[yellowbritt]

I do this, too. I do it less now that I'm older, but it actually caused me confusion at times when I was younger. I think this is natural to most people, INFJ or not, to some degree. Different people bring out different things in me, and that's ok. I just try to spend more time with the people who bring out what I like in myself, and less with people who bring out things I dislike about myself.