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This is a discussion on Why do INFJs act so differently depending on who they're talking to? within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Kadence Oh, believe me, it's not just you INFJ's. I think a lot of people change their ...
Yes, yes, yes. I would subconsciously mold my personality to fit the person I'm with. I'm genuine with everyone, so I don't think that's being "fake". Just extremely cautious and...wary of who I allow to see the "real" me.
Whoever that may be.
I can relate as well. And it even resulted in not passing an assessment...haha...still talking about it... One reason I didn't pass was because I didn't make a competent impression. But that was because I was around tutors/assessors (not because I think i'm inferior or something). And I'm totally different towards them than I am towards clients/patients. And I can't to turn it off somehow.
And I do it all the time...yeah, I also feel that being myself (whatever that is ) wouldn't be accepted by others. But I don't know if I've tried. Or probably I'm myself too often and that's why I'm having problems...uh...dunno...either or neither might be true.
Yes I definitely do this. It can be a little weird when the two people I'm completely different around are both hanging out with me! I think I just intuitively pick up on the vibes of someone and just match them. I bet if I could see auras, I would see my aura moving to match the person I'm talking to.
Applies to me as well. For me, I act differently around different people because that's what makes them comfortable. Some people see it as being disingenuous, but I don't feel like I'm being different, so much as it is that I change the way I convey my thoughts. I just express them in different manners when I'm with different people to be more easily understood.
I don't think of myself as having different personas or masks, rather that I have many many layers, and I only peel back so many depending on who I am with. That way I am not being false, but merely choosing who I trust enough allow to know me on a deeper level. Plus, certain people bring out certain qualities in me that others simply cannot unlock. There is nothing fake about it, and I am learning to incorporate my different facets into one, true "me" that I feel comfortable sharing with people more readily :)
I'm a mirror. I reflect what people want to see. That's why I'm well liked. Always have been. It's deceptive though.
I do this, too. I do it less now that I'm older, but it actually caused me confusion at times when I was younger. I think this is natural to most people, INFJ or not, to some degree. Different people bring out different things in me, and that's ok. I just try to spend more time with the people who bring out what I like in myself, and less with people who bring out things I dislike about myself.