[DreamTheater]

could you live through life by putting a more positive spin on everything and deflect negativity?

could you stop blaming others for your hardships, could you stop being a victim even if you indeed have a right to be one?

could you be truly responsible for everything that happens to you and own every problem or hardship you face, or would you rather shy away and disappear from it all and let those problems own you?

does being comfortable actually make you uncomfortable?



I found that for me, it really does effect your life and that once you own up to yourself and every detail that's somehow attached to you, life gets much more enjoyable.

take care of your health, guys, it's amazing how much forcing yourself to be positive in any situation effects it. even if you're in the right, being unyieldingly obstinate can make you sick -- figure ways around things and let your ego drop...it has this way of affecting your confidence for the better every single time. just let it go and take care of it from your end and that's that.

i've been slowly changing the way i deal with everything and have been putting this way of dealing with my outer world and inner world through its paces. i've always been an athletic person but i've neglected that aspect of my life since i hit adulthood. I'm running twice a day and hitting the weights at home and enjoying every second of living and it's been like this for the past 2 months since I started. I say hello to everyone, help out someone when they need it without entering their name into a favour "tab", explore my surrounding area like i used to when i was a kid, eat a lot less, actually accomplish all my little daily goals, force myself to take care of the gigantic decisions i've always put off by managing my time properly ...basically i'm living up to my ideals instead of just talking about them.

i just want to let you guys know that it's possible for all of you no matter how shitty you think life is right now, because it's mostly just in your head. start doing it at any time, but if you're young, i suggest you start right away... you'll have a step up on probably everyone around you.

i'm only 2 months in, but i'm never going to stop...it feels too good. hell, i even danced for the first time last week. me? dance? lol.

i feel better now than i ever did before. including when i was in the best relationship of my life.

good luck.

[Ocky]

What a brilliant post!

I can't remember the last time i was sad, i decided to discontinue the practice of sadness as it made me unhappy.

You'd be surprised how simple it is too! :)

[bogdan]

should it? positivism is a very delicate thing for introverted people (for extroverted people positive thinking is their engine) and then there is T and F, life is seen through different eyes, the measure and importance of positive thinking is different. Negative thoughts are different from negative feelings, and what a feeler sees as being negative a thinker might see it as just being objective. Another example is comparing the life of a phlegmatic and choleric, one is more pragmatic and is easily satisfied, positive equals peace and harmony, yet he might be seen as having an negative and lazy attitude towards life by the other for whom positive equals being super-confident, fulfilling his pleasures no matter the cost, to live is to control, to lose is to be controled.

The suggested solution of physical exercises has many qualities, as it clears your mind from meditating on unnecessary things, plus it gives some happy hormones, you have a balanced relation between your mind and mind, so in the end the optimisitc view on life has gone stronger.

[bubbleboy]

I really like the positivity. As of late I've just been trying to have fun with my life and not take things so seriously. I've been trying to meet new people and become more extroverted. I went to my first concert last night! It was so sickkkkkkkkkkkk...i danced like a fool and screamed my head off =)

[Annihilatron]

its hard. I find I can do it if I can make something up to believe in. A dream, I think that's called.

But dreams can be broken. And so I am here picking up the pieces around my feet.

[xezene]

Well, they say Buddha was an INFJ...woo for your great post!

[raj]

your post genuinely made me happy.

i normally don't respond kindly to calls to action (pertaining to some sort of enlightenment recently found by someone else) ... my initial reaction is "who are you to tell me how to better myself? you don't know me, and you're in no position to coach me on my life..."

anyways, your words didn't come off as invasive or elitist. in fact, they make me want to give you a huge hug. thanks.

[Daveman]

I had a psychologist recommend to me one time to think in terms of productive and unproductive instead of "good" and "bad". I can do that with certain things. I guess that's still positive and negative and not really neutral though. Maybe I am "blinded to neutrality".

Anyway, I think it's good to be positive. I think some pessimists want to think of themselves as "realists", and I don't think optimism is always unrealistic.

I'm happy that things are going so well for you, @DreamTheater .

Keep it up.

[ertertwert]

Positive thinking is more than just a catchword.

[Elwin]

For some people, pessimism is intrinsic and they are energized by complaining, ridiculing, and being negative all the time. They seem oblivious to how this effects everyone around them. I've learned to avoid them like the plague. However, some people may just be going through a bad time (like their parents died in a car wreck recently or something) so their pessimism is external and must be forgiven or tolerated on some level.

Here's a few related LiveScience articles you all might enjoy reading:

Happiness: Contagious as the Flu
Optimism Boosts Immune System
Study: Optimists Live Longer