Every description I have read concerning the INFJ says or implies that they are able to quickly get over things and move on.
I completely disagree.
I think that we appear to be moving on but we are deeply sensitive souls and I don't think we able to just "get over" things. I don't know about any of you but I carry the hurt with me for the rest of my life and it influences future relationships and actions. I have never got over pain, I just learn to cope with it. Learning to cope isn't the same as getting over something. If you are over something you don't have any feelings about it. INFJs hold back a part of themselves and I have found this is largely down to fear of rejection which is largely down to being rejected and hurt many times in the past. So why would they do that if they can just get over things? If they were over things they wouldn't feel the need.
I think people expect the INFJ to be a rock and I have found that the majority of people cannot cope when an INFJ is in distress or needs someone else to be their rock. It's easier for others if the INFJ just "gets over it" and goes back to being a rock.
So do INFJs really get over things with ease or is it just their defense mechanism to act like they are over things.
Thoughts? Agree or Disagree?
And how do you react when you are hurt? If you know an INFJ, how do they react when they have been hurt? Is it similar to any of this?