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This is a discussion on Public Speaking within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; INFJ's, how do you deal with public speaking, acting, singing, performing, etc? Do you have anxiety? If so, how do ...

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    INTJ - The Scientists

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    INFJ's, how do you deal with public speaking, acting, singing, performing, etc? Do you have anxiety? If so, how do you typically deal with it? Have you always responded as such?

    I've met quite a few INFJ's that seemed pretty open with singing on cam, talking on the phone, etc, so I wasn't sure if it was common in general.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I am terrified of pubic speaking, it comes in just above death on my list of fears. I had to deliver a speech at my high school graduation, and only succeeded because I read it off the paper in front of me.

    I actually sang karaoke with a friend of mine once (I think "We're Not Gonna Take It, by Twisted Sister, or something similar), quite successfully I might add, though I personally detest karaoke. I was quite drunk, but out-shined my companion, whose idea it was, by a considerable measure.

    In the military, I was forced to attend sergeant school and to deliver "briefings." This terrified me, but my instructor was an ENFJ, and she helped me more than I can say. It was only in front of maybe ten people. I found it immensely helpful having a very intimate knowledge of my subject matter, and I successfully delivered my speeches, but I nevertheless felt quite afraid, and had this weird sensation like I was speaking outside of myself.

    It definitely helps if you know what you are talking about. Improve would leave me frozen solid.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I think all people feel anxious about it to start with, not just INFJs - the only way through that is experience - the more times you do it the easier it gets. I still get nervous but it's a good nervous

    I have to speak at customer events as part of my job - Maybe I was lucky I got thrown in the deep end and it went ok. Once you have got over the basic experience it's much easier to ad lib and put more emotion/passion into it

    Totally agree with the previous comment - knowledge of your subject makes all the difference!
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I never enjoy public speaking, but I can rally through it and do a decent job when I have to give a presentation. My biggest problem is voice projection - I sound louder in my head than I actually am to everyone else.

    As far as acting and singing go? Well, I am not trained to do either. For some reason, acting makes me feel silly - I played a lot of "make believe" as a child, but I'm not interested in doing it now at all. And, trust me, NOBODY wants to hear me sing. I only do that in the car ALONE...or when I'm drunk with my best friend.
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    I'm pretty good at all of them. I understand naturally how its SUPPOSED to go, and then I work out how to get from point A to point B.

    I turn on apathy and then act all confident. It works.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I attended acting school in Hollywood right after high school and loved it. While I didn't follow through with the career (LA and "the biz" was far too stereotypical, judgemental, and shallow for me) I still love acting, mainly improv or comedy work in general.

    I think that for me it's far easier with a character, though. I've gotten better at just basic public speaking over the years, and while I actually enjoy it now I used to be scared to death of putting myself in front of a room of people. Having a character to hide behind is far better. I think my newer confidence in speaking as myself might come from my limited acting experiences these days. I probably put on a bit of a caricature of myself when I speak publicly now, so that's how I think I cope. I create something different from myself, and take pride in presenting that to the world.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    When I was younger I used to be fine with public speaking, though I'd never sing. Now, I hate public speaking and would still never sing except for inside my own house and occasionally quietly with my best friend. But I hate public speaking.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I used to compete at singing competitions when I was young. But I'd still do it again if I thought my singing was still 'good' enough.

    I'm usually very anxious beforehand, but when I get on stage, or in front of a bunch of people I just "do" and it goes like it should go.

    Must say that I had some classes on how to present myself. It helped me a lot. I went from being a soft spoken shy and nervous looking girl, to a confident, well articulated speaker. Although I don't see it myself, but I gather this from observations of teachers.

    I actually want to get better and get over my fear altogether. It would be nice to someday maybe teach. Or at least, I think it would be

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    When I was in high school (grades 8 - 12 in Canada) I wanted to be famous so I took acting and that forced me to do some public speaking because we had to put on skits and plays. Then when I reached university, I realized that I needed to be able to talk to people; to develop my interpersonal and communication skills. So I went and got a job at Starbucks.

    These days, the only time that I have anxiety when talking in front of a group is if I don't know what to say. It seems that I have no problem with public speaking when I know the script or when it becomes rote. For example: givng tours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Akrasiel View Post
    INFJ's, how do you deal with public speaking, acting, singing, performing, etc? Do you have anxiety? If so, how do you typically deal with it? Have you always responded as such?

    I've met quite a few INFJ's that seemed pretty open with singing on cam, talking on the phone, etc, so I wasn't sure if it was common in general.
    I've never been much of a public performer. Other than a few years of singing I did in High School and College, being in front of a lot of people, regardless of the occasion, has always been uneasy for me.

    Before I sang with my choir at a concert, being away from people and with my own thoughts are what helped with the anxiety.

    Singing was not as much of a problem as public speaking was. At least when I sang in concerts I had many months to practice and make everything just right. Also, if I did forget a word or slipped up with a time signature, fortunately there were many others around me singing the same part which helped me blend in a bit.

    With public speaking, no matter how much I practiced, I have this very startstop way of talking which making communicating to a class full of people a little intimidating, as if people thought I wasn't so sure of what I was saying. Even with that, I had a lot of anxiety preparing for speeches. I decided that it wasn't worth as the stress so I dropped that public speaking class.

    I don't see myself in a very social profession, and although most adults should probably know how to publicly speak, it just doesn't gel with me very well. 1 on 1 interaction is where it's at.

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