I've been wondering: what's the most important trait for you in a (prospective) romantic partner? Does it differ from what you prefer in a friend?
I'm asking because I met a very wonderful man a few months ago, who I'm almost certain is an infj. We'd been talking constantly and playing games with each other's intuition and beginning to get to know each other, and he seemed to find me interesting, or at least, he told me so.. It was as if we'd started something quite unusual that would normally be unattainable, like from a fairy-tale; the kind of naive idea you might have as a kid and grow out of the hard way.
But recently he's revealed that he's in a relationship. He apologised awkwardly and we didn't talk for a little while... but now we've started talking again; he seems addicted to the 'mind-games' we have and my ramblings. From the little he's told me about his girlfriend, she sounds like an 's', so they wouldn't have that in common.. I just don't understand, it seems like we're so good for each other, but evidently he has other ideas, yet he's perfectly happy to use me intellectually and even to flirt..
So it's just made me wonder... what do you infjs truly value in someone? (Sorry about the venting.)