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This is a discussion on What does a "healthy" INFJ look like? within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; 1) In your opinion, what does a healthy INFJ look like? What traits do they have when operating at their ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    1) In your opinion, what does a healthy INFJ look like? What traits do they have when operating at their best?

    I think similarly to other mature and healthy people of other types as well. Healthy individuals can sometimes be hard to type. Self-accepting and accepting of others, emphathetic, not overly defensive / neurotic in whatever ways might be inclined to be, emotionally honest, self-aware & has come into terms with the ego, symphathetic, balanced and growing and learning to balance between cognitive functions. For INFJ specifically developing Se; asserting oneself into the world and not afraid of being assertive. Has boundaries and self-esteem. Want reason difficult and overwhelming feelings with Ti. Has close relationships, can be vulnerable and open.

    2) What do you believe INFJ's as a type can contribute to society?

    We are the ultimate humanists lol. :P We are humane and our caring CAN be an inspiration to others. We can influence others' lives with our warmth, caring, joy and empathy. We can offer ourselves for others, sounds like a really weird thing to say but that's I think where we just thrive, by giving others our gift of caring so damn much. We can make people believe - in themselves, in positive change we believe in, in others. We can help others realize their potential. We can create ideas and if we believe in them hard enough to work for it, make those changes happen. We CAN touch the human spirit. We can be an inspiration, that's probably the most important. We are passionate about our causes and ideas, and that passion flames.

    3) Are you happy with yourself and what you have done with your life? If so.. why?

    I'm not happy with myself, because there's always more, always. I am proud of myself, though, for the transformations that I've gone through and how I am this moment. I haven't done much with my life and yet I feel on the inside I've gone through a lot. So far it's been inner stuff, in years to come I hope there will be more of the external stuff, me doing more.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by Goaty View Post
    There are many more behavior shifts, but these are just what popped into my head.

    Passive-aggressive behavior will be replaced with an ability to calmly and productively butt heads with those whom they have found offense. Young and unhealthy INFJs fear conflict and any kind of confrontation that throws off the delicate social balance they are trying to create. While keeping the peace is nice, swinging in the extreme direction does not prevent conflict, but instead places it under a pressure cooker. Some things cannot be avoided and must be discussed; the healthy INFJ will recognize these situations and address them with the best actions to achieve the harmonial balance that they love.

    Feelings of alienation from society and people in general will disappear. Instead of the INFJs focusing on how different they are, how "strange" or "abnormal," they recognize that their differences are what allow them to make a ripple in this world. Their unique talents will be embraced and fostered for optimal development. Everyone wants to do something good, and the healthy INFJs will recognize that their abnormalities are exactly what set them apart; sometimes what is needed most isn't what most people can think of.

    INFJs are known for their stubborn opinions about people. Some are quite accurate--seeing social dangers and pitfalls, reading someone and discerning his or her motives and hidden agendas--but this accuracy can shut off INFJs from listening to others' points-of-view. The healthy INFJ understands that people change, and what judgements he or she may have assigned to a certain person are subject to change; what was here yesterday may be gone tomorrow, and what he or she saw in someone may have been incorrect or unfair.

    Healthy INFJs take care of themselves. Sometimes, in immature cases, INFJs can be unable to set their needed boundaries, ultimately compensating their own well-being for someone else's. As much as it might be difficult, it's okay to be a little selfish every once in a while. If you don't take care of yourself, how on earth are you supposed to be able to take care of those whom you love? The healthy INFJ is able to flee from the emotional vampires that some stumble upon, setting clear and defined boundaries that keep him/herself safe. An unhealthy INFJ can lock his/herself into a dead-end relationship and make excuses for the other person's behavior, but in the case of the healthy INFJ, this does not happen.

    Healthy INFJs are: humble, wise, caring, selfless, emotionally strong, cool headed, objective with judgements, protective, able to inject happiness into others' lives, trusting, honest, kind, perceptive, among other things.
    Wow, this is just full of awesome! Thanks so much--some of these really rang true for me (that I need to work on, I mean). I'll be referring back to this.
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  3. #23
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    Quote Originally Posted by Goaty View Post
    There are many more behavior shifts, but these are just what popped into my head.

    Passive-aggressive behavior will be replaced with an ability to calmly and productively butt heads with those whom they have found offense. Young and unhealthy INFJs fear conflict and any kind of confrontation that throws off the delicate social balance they are trying to create. While keeping the peace is nice, swinging in the extreme direction does not prevent conflict, but instead places it under a pressure cooker. Some things cannot be avoided and must be discussed; the healthy INFJ will recognize these situations and address them with the best actions to achieve the harmonial balance that they love.

    Feelings of alienation from society and people in general will disappear. Instead of the INFJs focusing on how different they are, how "strange" or "abnormal," they recognize that their differences are what allow them to make a ripple in this world. Their unique talents will be embraced and fostered for optimal development. Everyone wants to do something good, and the healthy INFJs will recognize that their abnormalities are exactly what set them apart; sometimes what is needed most isn't what most people can think of.

    INFJs are known for their stubborn opinions about people. Some are quite accurate--seeing social dangers and pitfalls, reading someone and discerning his or her motives and hidden agendas--but this accuracy can shut off INFJs from listening to others' points-of-view. The healthy INFJ understands that people change, and what judgements he or she may have assigned to a certain person are subject to change; what was here yesterday may be gone tomorrow, and what he or she saw in someone may have been incorrect or unfair.

    Healthy INFJs take care of themselves. Sometimes, in immature cases, INFJs can be unable to set their needed boundaries, ultimately compensating their own well-being for someone else's. As much as it might be difficult, it's okay to be a little selfish every once in a while. If you don't take care of yourself, how on earth are you supposed to be able to take care of those whom you love? The healthy INFJ is able to flee from the emotional vampires that some stumble upon, setting clear and defined boundaries that keep him/herself safe. An unhealthy INFJ can lock his/herself into a dead-end relationship and make excuses for the other person's behavior, but in the case of the healthy INFJ, this does not happen.

    Healthy INFJs are: humble, wise, caring, selfless, emotionally strong, cool headed, objective with judgements, protective, able to inject happiness into others' lives, trusting, honest, kind, perceptive, among other things.
    but i'm so good at being passive aggressive (humph)

    on a serious note, you sound like my mom (a highly developed infj, i love her dearly. trust me it's a major compliment)
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Does a healthy male infj look the same as a healthy female infj? What are the different challeges they face as they develop?

  5. #25
    INFJ - The Protectors

    Healthy INFJs are happy INFJs and that's all to it.

  6. #26
    INFJ - The Protectors

    When I'm at my greatest, I know it's like I was just born to be peaceful and understanding. I'm able to keep emotional peace and balance, regardless of cirumstances, can't even find it in me to get angry at anyone or criticize them because I can put myself in anyone's shoes and know where they're coming from. I'm able to be supportive and optimistic for myself and for others. I'm responsible and use wisdom. I don't feed any impulses and can keep my head. I reach out to others when they're in stress and genuinely want them to share all their feelings good and bad with me, and I don't judge them or think any less of them for their mistakes. I admire and encourage their couarge to be open and honest, to be human, and extend grace. I can be really awesome when I don't let my emotions take control over my attitude.


 
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