My question to you: Have you ever been in any kind of position of authority, and if so, how did you handle conflict?
Anyone may feel free to skip my life story to just answer that question if they wish. It just seems to help me to write stuff down instead of just keeping it to myself.
I started going to a university when I was 24. I was considered a junior. I had gone to a community college off and on for five years prior to that and had obtained an associates degree in mass communications. I needed money, and before I started the semester I received an e-mail about being a resident assistant. I had never heard of it before, but I thought it would work out well for me since I was going to move out there anyway.
I was assigned to a freshman dormitory. My floor happened to be one of the rowdiest of the building. They were RIM students (Recording Industry Majors). They irritated me like crazy at first. There was also a kid from another floor that liked to bother me all the time. He thought EVERYTHING was funny. He had a very loud and annoying laugh. I wrote him up several times, but mostly he just had talks with the area coordinator (my boss), which of course he just found more hilarious.
-One of my residents was found dead in his room; he had diabetes and couldn’t afford any more medication.
-We had to deal with a schizophrenic resident who was an air force major that was eventually kicked out of school.
-A girl was stabbed; she barely survived.
-Another resident messed around with the pipes and flooded three floors of the building. We had to clean up a lot of the damage. We had to bag several clothes that were soaked because so many residents just left them scattered all over the floor.
-I didn’t really like to conduct floor meetings- mainly because it was hard to get anyone to show up- but I did ok with that. For some reason, I’ve never had a problem writing speeches. I made an A in speech class, but I don’t really like giving them.
I had a hard time dealing with conflict, and unfortunately, there was a lot of it. However, I think that overall it was a good experience for me. I was good at the job as long as nothing was “happening” and I could just joke around with the kids on my floor. A lot them liked me, and many of them are still on my facebook friends list. I got along great with the staff after I warmed up to them. One of them is now my best friend. He and I rented an apartment the following year. We lived there for two years. He lives with his girlfriend now, and I still go visit him from time to time.