Been a lurker for awhile ... first post... I know this has been discussed several times. The dynamics between an INFJ and ENFP but I couldn't really find the answer I was looking for.
Hmmm in a hurry this morning so going to make this short.
I've been with an ENFP for about two months now. It's the first relationship I've had with one. It's been the most intense also. That's putting it gently.
He's done a disappearing act on me twice now and he tells me not to take it personally. From what I've read this is part of his personality. I haven't been able to make contact with him for two days now. I'm not sure how to deal with this. I've been sending him sweet texts here and there and just random thoughts. I guess I feel this at least lets him know I'm thinking of him. I wonder though if I should just leave him be. To be honest I don't even know if I can do that.
I know he's going through stuff and needs to sort it out in his head. I know he does this by seclusion. That doesn't mean I understand it or know how to deal with it. My nature is to try and fix it. Help him. I feel like I can't do anything and I think that's what is bothering me the most.
It's going to be different for each individual I know. I still would really like some advice on how to help him or how to "be there for him". If an ENFP could tell me what it is that they personally need when they go into their bubbles, or an INFJ tell me how they've dealt with a similar circumstance it would help a lot.