I recently entered the dating scene. Divorce was final almost a year ago, so I guess that's long enough. I'm somewhat bashful around people I don't know. I can meet new people and talk to them in a group setting, but when they want to go out on a one-on-one DATE - I panic. And kissing a man who isn't already my friend?? You've got to be kidding!! Is the rule that he gets to kiss the girl on the first date? Fine - he gets a cheek! A soft, sweetly fragranced cheek, but none the less, a cheek. Perhaps it's because I have yet to meet one who causes a tingle.... I'm health conscious, so someone who is obviously not health conscious is not in the running.
I have arranged to meet interested men in group settings, which was OK with all the other people to interact with and act as buffers. I have gone out on one lunch date. It was long enough. Phone calls? I thought if we talked on the phone a couple of times first, it would ease matters for me. You know how INFJs feel about phone calls: a 45 min phone call is WAY TOO LONG, but it seems the norm for the men who have called me. I think I'll start giving out my email address instead. I'm really good with email.
I'd quit, but then I'd never get laid. I'd really like to get laid. Please help me. I'm open to suggestions. And just so you know, I'm 50 yrs old. As far as I'm aware, I don't know any other INFJs. Most of my friends are extroverted, so they don't have this issue.