The concept of judging as opposed to being judgmental was hard for me to distinguish at first, but some research helped me understand this better. so I thought I'd share my hard work with y'all. Myers and Briggs said that types with a preference for judgment show the world their preferred judging function (thinking or feeling). According to Myers, judging types like to "have matters settled."
Precaution:Words used to describe preferences in psychology do not mean the same thing as they do in everyday life
Extravert does not mean talkative or loud
Introvert does not mean shy or inhibited
Feeling does mean emotional
Judging does not mean judgmental
(This is from a PPT when we had a personal development seminar at work today)
When "judging" types make a judgment, we are making a decision/opinion of some sort. This is the "judging" preference that plays out in that we want to have matters settled on what we think/feel about something/someone. Often, I know people with Judging preferences who have an opinion about something, but don't try to force this on others. I call this "agreeing to disagree" : the idea that it's alright to have strong opinions about something and it's alright to disagree with other people's strong opinions about the same thing.
On the other hand, being judgmental is about having an opinion and being right. Being judgmental is about using our judgment/judging preference harshly against others. The author of this one article also says: "Check yourself when you're in a debate or in disagreement with someone. Are you in reaction rather than just stating your case? Are you trying to be "right" and invested in them agreeing with you? If so, you're being judgmental."
Anyway, that was a long post, no? ;D It's actually the condensed version of all the research I did. I hope this post can be helpful to others, too. =) I was inspired to write this after a long discussion with some coworkers today who also sat through the personal development seminar we had. A lot of us have the Judging preference, so we concluded that we need to be sure to constantly check ourselves like the above quote mentioned. Another thing, a lot of us were also Feeling types (3 of us were INFJs!!!!), and we also mentioned how if we feel that someone is receiving this harsh judgment , we feel obliged to stand up for and "protect" the person against the perceived harshness. Any of y'all relate to this?