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    INFJ - The Protectors

    INFJ & Friendships?

    Do you think it is easier to make friends as and young INFJ or do you think it becomes easier as you get older?

    Interested in your thoughts.



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    Unknown Personality

    It was definitely easier for me when I was younger.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I am going to say that is easier for an INFJ to make friends when they are older. Simply because they are wiser because one learns the understanding their personality type traits better, as wel as, other personality types. Even with that said, I am very selective in who I become very close to as friends. When I find someone that I can connect with & trust, I pull them all the way in, instead of holding them from a distance. Actually, this is how I have always done it. Hope this helps.
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    Unknown Personality

    Dalien, I agree with what you say -- I think because I am selective (of who I can connect with and trust), and because I am more selective the older I get, it is harder to make friends. Once I do find these friends, the friendship is very precious to me.

    When I was younger, however, I was less selective (and less wiser), and I freely interacted with my peers. I was considered very extroverted & amiable when I was younger for this. I think the older we get, the more selective and observant we get -- in this sense, it is "easier" for us to choose good friends, but I would still say it was still easier when I was younger, because I put less effort and thought into it.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I appreciate your comments and thank you for your response.
    I am finding it harder and harder to connect with people as I get older. Not because I do not want to they just do not understand me. INFJ what can I say.
    I have a loving family and husband that totally get me. Others find me difficult to read and I do not fit into the square so I am on the outer. That does not bother me as I am always only looking for people that have real values, not the ones that pretend to be deep and meaningless.
    I know am I judgemental. Unfortunately that is due to past history.
    I would like to make new friends that understand my personality.
    As and INFj where do you find new friends and how?
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I think its easyer to make make play friends when youre younger, but real friends when youre older.If you get what I mean

    For years I had no new freinds, I just could not find someone who could understand me enough to call them friends.But somehow one ENTP found me, we met in a really funny situation, in a hot dub actually durning our school trip XD He introduced me to some new people and now they are all my friends^^ I am really greateful to him:)
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    It's easier for me now than it was when I was younger. As a child, things were black and white. Either a person was good or bad, nice or mean, etc. Now I can see all the shades of gray in people. I recognize that even good, nice people can be hurtful. I weigh the pros and cons and decide whether caring about a person is worth the risk. I think everything is easier now that I'm older. :)
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I think it was easier when I was younger to make friends for just the day but now it is easier for longer term.(even though a lot of my friends now I met when I was younger) But i think that is with a lot of people. kids do not care what is what they just want someone to play with while their parents are off doing adult things
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    INFJ - The Protectors

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    Quote Originally Posted by curious0610 View Post
    Dalien, I agree with what you say -- I think because I am selective (of who I can connect with and trust), and because I am more selective the older I get, it is harder to make friends. Once I do find these friends, the friendship is very precious to me.

    When I was younger, however, I was less selective (and less wiser), and I freely interacted with my peers. I was considered very extroverted & amiable when I was younger for this. I think the older we get, the more selective and observant we get -- in this sense, it is "easier" for us to choose good friends, but I would still say it was still easier when I was younger, because I put less effort and thought into it.
    same here...

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I had a large group of friends when I was younger and it was easier I think to make friends in a way. Now that I a little older (I'm still in my teens) I find it a little harder to make lasting friendships. Though the friends I do have now are true friends who understand me and aren't the kind of fickle friends some childhood friends can be. As some of you have already said while it was easier to make short term friends when you're younger, the friends you do manage to make when you're older are better friends in the long run. If that makes any sense


 

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