Hi .. first thread.. curious to know if anyone plans for the off chance... i don't know how to really explain it so i will give an example...
for example, ill keep a recorded episodes of a tv show on iq because i think a friend might like it and one day they might come hang out and they then have the option to watch it..
or ill put on a different dvd if i know someone is coming over because i think they might like this more (even when they're not coming over to watch a dvd or tv) but just so they have the option..
or if you've organised to do something with someone eg. have lunch.. keeping the rest of the afternoon free on the off chance they want to hang out longer
i suppose giving people an option when they've never asked for it?
i think a lot of the time i set myself up for disappointment because (without trying to sound a certain way) i dont think people know all the thoughts/time/energy spent to rearrange myself to suit them? (nor should they.. i mean they never asked for it)
a lot of the time i find myself planning in my head how hanging out or seeing someone will go but as soon as i see them it all disappears..
its exhausting and lately im trying to not do this as much and i guess switch off a little
i suppose i appreciate the time i spend with people (particularly the ones i dont get to see as often) so i want to give every chance of seeing them more? (more to do with example 3)
*written as i thought it so its a bit all over the place