[waterviolet]

Anyone else have an issue with others not seeing you for who you are and not appreciating it? It's almost as if we are an after-thought. Something only appreciated when we are gone. Are we really that uninteresting? And why is it that they see it months or years down the road?!?! Is it because they finally wake up and compare us to other less gratifying relationships?

What gives someone an instant interesting quality and how do we cultivate that within ourselves?

Even my threads on here seem uninteresting to most (perhaps that's my interprutation due to lack of response). Is it possible to be an INFJ and not appear interesting to other INFJs?

[amanda32]

The majority of people tend not to appreciate nice people, that's all. Then, when they mature sometimes they come to their senses.

[SarahWilliams]

waterviolet, you need to 'own' yourself a bit more.

life is about confidence. charm, and confidence.

ive found in my own life, if i pretend to be confident, others will entrust me with more power. the more power i receive, and the more powerful i appear... the more confidence i tend to have.

i think we all go through periods of darkness. however, my advice to you, is to fake confidence until you get it.

making interesting threads is a talent all by itself. mostly all it takes is an open-ended question, and a want of the OP for advice.

[MoonLight]

I think people just go to threads they can relate to (sometimes the title matters to attract more to open it) and sometimes people just want to read rather than respond (this is my current mood).

Also not having enough response shouldn't reflect on the OP because there are many factors that lead to that...we have a tendency to blame ourselves even though it is not the case.

[dreaming panda]

INFJs are different too.
Sometimes INFJs in here writes things I can't relate to at all, sometimes it's like reading about my own life & thoughts.
A lot of the things I may find interesting, may not be the things you find interesting.. eventhough we're both INFJs.
A person is sooo much more than four letters.

And I think I have to say the same thing as SarahWilliams said:

i think we all go through periods of darkness. however, my advice to you, is to fake confidence until you get it.

I have to do that sometimes =)

[myjazz]

I tend to not show many part's of who I am to most people. If someone strike's my interest is when I show them different part's of me whether it be as a friend or someone more. Since you are one of the few who have struck my interest you must have something far more interesting about you than you let on, I have much love for everybody here :)

[entropy]

I don't really mind showing people the real me, but I hold back unless I think they genuinely care/are interested.

[Linus]

A lot of good points in this thread already...

I liked your Power of the Meek thread and was actually thinking it would get more response. Sounds like it fits more in an HSP forum. Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with you or your posts ;-)

[waterviolet]

Wow...loved all of the responses! I appreciate the thought that I might lack confidence and perhaps it seems that way with my underlying need to feel accepted or noticed. I do have times where I completely "fake" a sense of confidence and other people oddly enough are attracted to that. Maybe I'm just going thru a time where I'm seeking something/someone but not knowing where to find it/them. I don't expect all INFJ's to have the same exact interests as myself but in some sense I feel that I'm closer than ever to experiencing a moment where someone "gets me". Even if its just a general conversational manner...it has been great to find a group that can understand and be open minded enough to see where I'm coming from. It's good to know that I've made some kind of impression on some of you - that's perfectly wonderful! Thank you everyone for your thoughts!

[waterviolet]

...and yes, I'm oh so interesting!