[INFJ] Getting nothing done, why do I feel lazy, unfocused and a mess?

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  1. #1
    INFJ - The Protectors

    Getting nothing done, why do I feel lazy, unfocused and a mess?

    Ok,

    I have gone through some severe stress in the past couple of months with personal life and work life. Things are really starting to calm down but I just cannot get myself to get out of a lazy, not wanting to do anything, unfocused and yet at the same time focused on everything mind set.

    It's really irritating me. Have any other INFJs experienced this? I've taken the advise of many in how INFJs need time to recharge to themselves in their own mind and doing something simply internal to relax and I feel better but it's SO SO temporary. The next work day comes and I dread and hate it. I still plan what I will do but I just don't have the will power to do or finish it.

    I've forced myself several times and really liked getting things done but they pile back up on top of me and I get overwhelmed again.

    HELP... Please Help.

    My mind just races over all I have to do and I keep getting side tracked from one task to another.

    I'm INFJ, Enneagram 6
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I can relate to this more than you can imagine. I am at a job right now that I absolutely loathe and am trying to get out. By the time I get home I am so burned out I can barely job search online. It's like I lack all motivation and just need time, like a lot of time, to recharge which I just don't have.
    Even at work I have absolutely zero motivation to do the projects in front of me.
    I get this way under periods of extreme stress or when I am depressed. I am both at the moment!
    I'm an Enneagram 6 too.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Ok, I thought I was an Enneagram 6 but I re-took the test at 9types.com and it's saying that I scored 6 on Type 4, 5, and 9 and that was my highest score..

    I'm confused now... What type am I?
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by Phoebe View Post
    I get this way under periods of extreme stress or when I am depressed.
    You have a good point there... I can see I'm fighting extreme stress and I kinda wonder about the depression deal... I've been down because I just can't do what I want to do financially and it doesn't seem like it will improve outside of what my goal/dreams are and my stubbornness to stick to them.

    I often look back at my bad decisions and wish I would have done things differently..

    I think all of these has stressed me and also given me the blues....

    Thank you for replying, I appreciate it.

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    Unknown Personality

    It isn’t a good idea to take a test when you are stressed, I’m a 1 who can get a 4 because I’m stressed.

    I can’t count the times I have been in your situation and all I was able to do is like you said to force myself to finish but in my situations when I finish I was able to move on and that is not always possible. All I can think of is if you alternate between your relax time and job but your relax time has to be something you really love to do so you have enough energy to go to work and look forward to something enjoyable when you leave work.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by MoonLight View Post
    It isnít a good idea to take a test when you are stressed, Iím a 1 who can get a 4 because Iím stressed.

    I canít count the times I have been in your situation and all I was able to do is like you said to force myself to finish but in my situations when I finish I was able to move on and that is not always possible. All I can think of is if you alternate between your relax time and job but your relax time has to be something you really love to do so you have enough energy to go to work and look forward to something enjoyable when you leave work.
    Good points.

    Actually I think I might be inflating what I need to get done in my head. I started forcing myself now as we speak and I'm feeling better already.

    I think I just need to tough it out and get stuff done and then focus on relaxing once I'm caught up.

    My problem is that I own a company and the work load has been severe and I've been struggling on IF i should hire someone or not to cover a certain position that I'm having to cover in addition to running the company. Money wise we should not hire someone but at times I wonder if we had someone and could handle either more business or these huge surges in business better then we would have no problem hiring someone. I just don't want to jump hoping things will be good but prefer to only jump knowing things will be good. This all adds to my stress and overwhelming feeling. Not to mention the guy I hired up front to help is an Extrovert that has no sense of when to talk and not talk and he has me constantly re-thinking what I was going to do and need to do... It's draining.

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    Unknown Personality

    Instead of focusing your energy on past decisions put them in reevaluating them to make new plans. For example, you can give pointers to the guy up front what you need him to do and about the work load you maybe can redistributed between more than person or higher someone on a low salary even if part time...just thoughts. When you stop feeling overwhelmed things become more clear.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    *le sigh* I am seriously struggling with this lately. Slacking in school, social life, personal life, everything! Haven't done anything except watch Netflix for like a solid week. For me, it's more like I'm always hoping one day things will get better and I just wait it out until I stop being lazy. Damn my excessive go with the flow attitude!

  9. #9
    INFJ - The Protectors

    I have this problem regularly. When it happens, I physically remove myself and go to a place I can focus (if I need to). Seriously. If I am at home and it's not too late, I'll go to starbucks or the library or somewhere no matter how I feel or the weather because I know if something must be done that's the only way it is going to happen. I had to do it today.


 

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