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This is a discussion on Top 5 Things INFJ Women prefer in Men within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Rouge It's simple biology, my dear. Men are more quickly turned on and have a much easier ...
To be frank, I haven't had many good partners in bed. Not sure whether that's the same experience for other women. So the answer to your question is, unfortunately, yes.
P.S: I didn't want you to think I was picking a fight with you, that's why I called you "dear". Funny how I keep getting misunderstood
Lol, it made me feel patronised .
Hm, but somehow, hearing about men being poor lovers in any way makes me feel angry in a sense. The thing you described simply breaks down to selfishness and I can't stand it if women are treated poorly. Unless they were inexperienced and you were impatient with them, in that case it would be unfair judgment of men on your part .
Nah, I wasn't intending to be patronising. I'm glad we cleared up this misunderstanding.
On bad lovers, I have a history of dating self-centred men. I'm happy to give, they're happy to take, it's a match made in hell These days, it's important that my partner takes care of my needs too, including in bed. That's why I stated this as one of my top 5.
wow reading these lists-- I can see why INFJ is often listed as my ideal type :D
Except you all seem to have exactly one requirement on your lists that I don't meet
These lists seem to articulate that men should just act like themselves, that is, like men, to be a blessing to their spouse. Give or take a few physical/character traits that I would consider taste I seem to fit most of them . Not meant as bragging, I think it is quite logical given the way men and women are supposed to complement one another .
This is ,after all, a thread that deals with what women wish for,.. not whats out there in reality. A lot of men in real life do not live up to any of these characteristics,.. sorry, but thats the truth. I may be an INFJ, but Im no naive idealist, I know the difference between whats really out there and what I'd LIKE to be out there.
Put shortly, I think that most people, both men and women, are a shadow of the persons they were supposed to be and it takes tremendous courage to change that. Staying that way is more comfortable so we end up with spineless, selfish people. There is some theological reasoning and personal experience behind all of this, just let me know if you care to hear more . (I would rather not hijack the thread for it).
my top five:
1. kindness, as a general attitude.
2. humility. Cockiness is such a turn-off. Narcissism is an even bigger turn-off.
4. thoughtfulness/intelligence. I'm a nerd and I like to talk about things with people. Maybe a bit of a snob even. I can't help it.
5. It helps if someone has a rebellious or silly streak. Just something to shake things up a little. Maybe if they're a bit of a risk-taker.