[thetourist]

Characteristics:
1) A good sense of humor
2) Creative
3) Honesty
4) Family oriented
5) Affectionate! I love cuddling, holding hands, kisses on the neck, etc. I love just laying around with my boyfriend and rubbing his back and sleeping on his chest <3



Physical Attributes:
1) Taller than me
2) Eyes that light up when he smiles :)
3) Long hair, especially if it's long enough to put in a ponytail.
4) Some meat on his bones. Not obese, but definitely not a bodybuilder type or skinny guy.
5) Smells nice.

Dislikes:
1) Disrespectful towards others. I went on a dinner date with someone and he was so rude to our waitress. He snapped his fingers at her and pointed to his drink when he needed a refill, never said thank you, etc. Needless to say, I didn't go out with him again.
2) Obsession with material things. I don't like "car people", or guys who are obsessed with name brand clothing, etc.
3) Cockiness. UGH nothing annoys me more than a guy who tries to win me over by talking about how great he is.
4) I don't like it when people baby me, or see my flaws as a drawback. Yes I have anxiety problems, but it bothers me when someone is constantly asking me "Are you alright? Do you need to leave?", "Are you sure you can do this?", because it makes me question my own sanity.
5) Pretentiousness.

Desires:
1) I know I mentioned creativity previously, but I feel like it needs to be stated again. Art and music take up a huge part of my life and since I don't socialize very much, I'd need someone who would just sit around and listen to music or take pictures with me.
2) Some sort of "uniqueness" about them. My ex had a fascination with aquatic mammals, which I found really cute. Another knew everything there was to know about trees. My boyfriend now has a handlebar mustache and thinks the number 37 is the answer to everything.
3) Someone nerdy who will talk about history or watch MonsterQuest with me.
4) He has to get along well with kids and animals.
5) Open minded.

[Gnothi Seauton]

After reading all this, it makes me really want an INFJ girlfriend now

[keepsake]

After reading all this, it makes me really want an INFJ girlfriend now

after reading all the Men's Top 5 and their willingness to help someone struggling...I can say the same for wanting an INFJ boyfriend. In most of the relationships I've heard of, not one really spoke of being there for someone low. many favored the immediate characteristics but withdrew when it came to difficulties...as if it was ruining their fun. I love how an INFJs love leans more toward selflessness.

[thetourist]

INFJ boyfriends are the best. Really. :)

[Gnothi Seauton]

after reading all the Men's Top 5 and their willingness to help someone struggling...I can say the same for wanting an INFJ boyfriend. .

Hmmm, I just got an idea: you're a girl and I'm a guy....we're both INFJ's....are you thinking what I'm thinking?

In most of the relationships I've heard of, not one really spoke of being there for someone low. many favored the immediate characteristics but withdrew when it came to difficulties...as if it was ruining their fun. I love how an INFJs love leans more toward selflessness.

That's why I don't get into relationships that often, I actually care...a bit too much I'm afraid.

[keepsake]

Hmmm, I just got an idea: you're a girl and I'm a guy....we're both INFJ's....are you thinking what I'm thinking?



That's why I don't get into relationships that often, I actually care...a bit too much I'm afraid.

oh, i think i've got an idea of what you're thinking

but i'm not quite sure...my intuition is a little off today (lol)

touche. it stings oh so very hard when your affection and depth isn't reciprocated or misunderstood. andd the irony is that one day the ones we gave our hearts to (and maybe some more) will understand that depth in the most needed times of their live's. *sigh* i've been known to be super affectionate...it's not something i can help... it just..happens..y'know?

[Gnothi Seauton]

oh, i think i've got an idea of what you're thinking

but i'm not quite sure...my intuition is a little off today (lol)

touche. it stings oh so very hard when your affection and depth isn't reciprocated or misunderstood. andd the irony is that one day the ones we gave our hearts to (and maybe some more) will understand that depth in the most needed times of their live's. *sigh* i've been known to be super affectionate...it's not something i can help... it just..happens..y'know?

Yeah, I'm also very prone to strong feelings of affection, but because I'm a guy I'm not suppose to act them out, so I instinctively turn those feelings into a cold distance because they are so intense. In other words, the more I like someone, the more distant I will appear.

It sucks I know

[keepsake]

Yeah, I'm also very prone to strong feelings of affection, but because I'm a guy I'm not suppose to act them out, so I instinctively turn those feelings into a cold distance because they are so intense. In other words, the more I like someone, the more distant I will appear.

It sucks I know

does this apply to every guy? i got into a bit of a tiff with someone. complicated situations, won't dwelve into it, but now he's ignoring me. sits right next to me in class (im in college by the way), and i notice he gets sort of tense every now and then, especially when i talk to the classmate next to me. right now we're on spring break and i haven't heard from him since nor have i texted/called him. not sure what's going on but i hope this break will help us relax and hopefully freshen out the ...err..whatever it is we have right now..perhaps nothing at all..golly i'm so confused but i think its best just not to think about it anymore.. i'll update as things unveal...

edit: oh btw, i meant to say...im sure if you're with another infj... you could unleash those affections comfortably ;D and who knows...it might not stop. hahaha.

edit: and he's got a ton of friends...always busy.. so i get the impression that he doesn't give a damn. who knows...maybe he doesn't... sigh* but i'm definately regaining ground in terms of my own tranquil little world...

[Gnothi Seauton]

does this apply to every guy? i got into a bit of a tiff with someone. complicated situations, won't dwelve into it, but now he's ignoring me. sits right next to me in class (im in college by the way), and i notice he gets sort of tense every now and then, especially when i talk to the classmate next to me. right now we're on spring break and i haven't heard from him since nor have i texted/called him. not sure what's going on but i hope this break will help us relax and hopefully freshen out the ...err..whatever it is we have right now..perhaps nothing at all..golly i'm so confused but i think its best just not to think about it anymore.. i'll update as things unveal...

edit: oh btw, i meant to say...im sure if you're with another infj... you could unleash those affections comfortably ;D and who knows...it might not stop. hahaha.

edit: and he's got a ton of friends...always busy.. so i get the impression that he doesn't give a damn. who knows...maybe he doesn't... sigh* but i'm definately regaining ground in terms of my own tranquil little world...

Yeah, I think you're over thinking too much about the situation. You should definitely let the events unfold themselves but also be a little bit proactive about it.

Why aren't you texting him back? I'm sure he'll be flattered for him to receive an unexpected text from you, or some kind of message that lets him know you're still interested. Just don't do the same mistakes I do and pretend I'm not interested lol

Please keep us update, I'll be more than happy to hear a successful INFJ relationship story

[keepsake]

Yeah, I think you're over thinking too much about the situation. You should definitely let the events unfold themselves but also be a little bit proactive about it.

Why aren't you texting him back? I'm sure he'll be flattered for him to receive an unexpected text from you, or some kind of message that lets him know you're still interested. Just don't do the same mistakes I do and pretend I'm not interested lol

Please keep us update, I'll be more than happy to hear a successful INFJ relationship story

well, i think he's angry with me or tired for that matter. there was alot of exchanges in the beginning via text most of which were misunderstandings and it's gotten pretty bad since...and due to some past complications still biting at our tails we agreed to be friends but i knew he still had feelings for me and vice versa. after many more texts and misunderstandings, it got to a point where he was stressed as i was already stressed and things just berserked. now we're kind of at a loss for what's going on, whose mad etc.etc. but i just called him and apologized. it all depends on how he receives it now...otherwise, this might very well be the end of it. which i'm okay with. it's been rough.