Hey everyone! I'm new to this site but as an INFJ, I wanted to discuss a very irritating and hurtful issue with you. In regards to my friendships, I would say that I only have a handful of "aquaintances" as opposed to actual friends. I'm about to enter my junior year of college, and this has been going on for years now. My entire life, if I did actually make a friend (which is incredibly difficult for me), the friendship would only last about a year because we would both go our separate ways.
Part of my reasoning is that if the other person doesn't contact me, then they must not be interested in pursuing a friendship with me or they've just grown tired of me. Every single friendship I've ever had in my life has faded into oblivion and it makes me feel absolutely miserable about myself. And, whenever I do reach out to a long lost friend and try to take things deeper (because as an INFJ, I desire authenticity and depth in a friendship), they just shut me out. It's incredibly irritating because I truly desire a strong friendship as opposed to a mere casual aquaintance, but it seems that it will never happen!! Can any of you fellow INFJ's relate to my issue??? (I truly appreciate your input)!
-Katherine, AKA an irritated, friendless INFJ