I've been told time and time again that I look intimidating to the average eye. I don't dress like the hulk or look crazy or anything. I guess I tend to look intimidating when I don't smile. What people don't understand is that I have so many daydreams and concrete thoughts floating around my head that I look through the physical people I'm interacting with at the time (i.e. crowds, strangers in passing, etc). My mind is always running on 2 reels. Doesn't everybody's though?
Running on 2 reels has never been exhausting to me, but it has had it's fall backs. For example, I can be looking directly at a stranger without smiling while I'm completely in my head working things out. When I snap to, I'm like "oh shat, this guy/girl thinks I'm a psycho" haha.
Anyways, those that were "bold enough to confront the monster" all have told me that they had wanted to befriend me for the longest, but were too intimidated to say anything. haha. I know my eyes or my stare can make people feel naked. Maybe it's a combination.
I'm not on a serious quest to "fix myself" to appease others' wishes, but it is something I want to dissect. When I was younger, I used to overcompensate for this by smiling like a bloody idiot. That just attracted predators, sociopaths and cons that were scanning crowds for tools. I guess I'd rather err on the side of looking like a hard ass than a tool. If people are intimidated then that's their burden, not mine. For me, I've kind of concluded people worth my getting to know aren't afraid of the possibility of rejection. Maybe I'm right. Maybe I'm wrong.
I was wondering if INFJ's typically get this type of feedback from people or close ones? If so, how have you responded if at all?