Are You a Love Addict or Love Avoidant?

**Curiously** · 07-31-2012 11:14 AM

I believe I was both at different stages in my life. Most recently, I was love avoidant because I believed I was sorely lacking. Now, while I'm sure I'm not in the clear in freeing myself from thoughts that tell me I lack in this and that and so much else, I believe I'm not avoiding love like before. Maybe I'm actually starting to welcome love in small doses, and if this shift is real, I'm enjoying it because love is all around, and it's up to me to embrace, nurture, and give it.

**Lady Lullaby** · 07-31-2012 09:26 PM

Bump.

Up.

Please.

**Kyfra** · 08-01-2012 09:05 PM

This thread is really interesting. Thanks for telling me about it Lady Lullaby. ^^
I think I have some characteristics of the love addict. Isn't that sad?

**Lady Lullaby** · 08-01-2012 10:41 PM

Originally Posted by Kyfra

This thread is really interesting. Thanks for telling me about it Lady Lullaby. ^^
I think I have some characteristics of the love addict. Isn't that sad?

I admitted as much about myself, no shame in self-awareness I say! All the better to see how to improve right?

**Kyfra** · 08-03-2012 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by Lady Lullaby

I admitted as much about myself, no shame in self-awareness I say! All the better to see how to improve right?

Hmm, that's true! Wouldn't it be good to finally find a good balance in our relationships with love? *Dreamy*

**xEmilyx** · 08-16-2012 09:08 AM

"the love avoidant to think of intimacy as a job"
ah! so true!
I mean the whole article made it seem like my parents abused me...which is sooo not true, I live in a pretty loving nice family. There were normal problems, but yeah I relate MUCH more to a love avoidant. but I feel pretty normal when it comes to this kind of stuff....but i lean more to love avoidant than love addicted..... it's not that bad though.

"Love Avoidants are accustomed to needy, dependent, helpless people whom they can rescue, which gives them control and a feeling of safety and power"
I relate to that as well.

I dunno I don't think i'm any of them but I relate much more to avoidant than anything.

**gold dust woman** · 08-20-2012 05:01 AM

Addicted to a narcissist for years-getting better. Both of us.

**Incline** · 08-20-2012 04:35 PM

I've characteristics of both, but I lean more towards love avoidant. I've never been in a relationship and some of the points mentioned in the articles resonates with me.

**Phoenix_Rebirth** · 08-20-2012 05:36 PM

I am a love avoidant.

**Noirell** · 08-22-2012 08:59 PM

I just found out why I am a love avoidant. The thought of someone having the power to crush me and elate me is verrrrry scary. I don't like to not be in control of my emotions and love is like the thief in the night that steals your heart while you least expect it. Then your left begging this thief to be gentle with the most fragile part of your psyche. I don't, don't, don't, like feeling helpless. I dont think I said enough don't's. My friends say I will be the lonely old lady with cats. I dont see the problem. I love cats. If I had the chance to be lonely or be heartbroken to the point I feel like I'm dying. I'll go with lonely and eat icecream and cookies with my cat and watch the big bang theory and be happy.