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This is a discussion on Do people say odd things to you or about you because your quiet? within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Most people find my quiet nature to be mysterious and charming, or unusually calming. The few times people decide to ...
Most people find my quiet nature to be mysterious and charming, or unusually calming. The few times people decide to be snarky about it (i.e. "I hope you don't bury me in the lake"), I'm snarky right back at 'em.
"Well.... *pretends to really think it over*... you never know. It is pretty secluded out there... hmm."Whether they find it funny or actually start to get paranoid about me, they usually don't end up being that obnoxious again. *shrug*
Do not underestimate the determination of a quiet man.
Iain Duncan Smith
When I'm quiet, people usually think I'm mad because I'm staring so hard due to the various thoughts circling through my head. When I'm looking up out of a window and being quiet, my eyebrows aren't as squinched up, then people used to think I was sad until one of them finally got that I was just being thoughtful.
Yes, and this is such a common situation with me that it make me LESS inclined to say anything back unless I've gotta defend myself, then I either knock your block off, and laugh, for being so loud, obnoxious, out, and out stupidly rude, or turn my back abruptly and dismiss myself. If I'm in a situation where I can't really remove myself, I'll just remain quiet, and tune you out.
I also don't feel like I OWE anyone an explanation for anything, I hate being interrogated, and asked 50 million questions right off the bat. My being quiet is a choice at times when I NEED to be internally calm, or the conversation around me just isn't appealing to me, and I'd rather be in my own thoughts, than to have to 'pretend' like everything else that made current events are so mind-bendingly awesome that I'm talking about shit, I couldn't (much less WOULDN'T) give a shit about.
I'm usually not a mean guy, but if I'm not interested, move along.Some people I suppose come up to me because I do have a very cool, but confident vibe, and I guess I just 'ooze competence' and I need to hear you talk. Some people ask to be cursed to tears, because they just habitually BARGE right into your life, and HAVE to tell you every little, itty, bitty, detail...just stick to the key points/facts, if you MUST tell me, because my interest fades FAST when I'm not drunk/high enough to entertain the topic which is so boring I knew I was going to have to be intoxicated to pretend to like it. I'm even more impatient, but happy when I'm drunk. lol
I'm nobodies goddamned dog, and I sure as shit, won't bark on command; if you're interesting to me I'll talk to you; I don't find all people who wear their hearts on their sleeve all that alluring/endearing either....more irritating than anything, excessively needy of attention, and really mundane in thought...I can't help it that I'm not interested in your conversation you had with joe-schmoe, I can't help it that I don't care that your friend called you and you had a little disagreement, but it's ok now, because you love each other again....god...in the end, these are the daily things we GO THROUGH IN LIFE; SHIT HAPPENS, and sometimes for no foreseeable reason; just get over it. I'm not much of a complainer, and I try to steer clear of alot of drama people bring because I don't have the patience to be embroiled in a conflict with someone I don't give 10 shit bricks about.
Like I said, not a mean guy, just not wholly interested in the little stuff.
Same here Marsipan on all above comments. I'm a pretty intense/deep thinker and when I show emotion on my face, you better believe something HUGE is going on in there...Originally Posted by Marsipan
I like to play with people who think I'm strange. When I started at my first job about 8 years ago, my boss made a comment about how quiet I was. When he asked why I kept to myself so much, I simply said "I'm plotting." and after I started talking more, he told me that he was convinced I was going to bring a gun to work or something after than conversation. That was the most extreme reaction I've gotten.
When I started my current job, my boss was very curious about my demeanor. She'd always say I was strange but she felt compelled to talk to me. Otherwise, I do try to be friendly around new people but moving into a new environment with completely new faces, I'm always reserved. Once people know me however, I'm always asked if something's wrong when I'm being quiet. That actually sorta gets annoying.
This 100x over. I wish I could believe they were genuinely interested when they asked instead of being nosey but alas.
It's partly my fault on that one though. I'm always trying to keep synergy going so I tend to look way more outgoing than I am. When I actually do want to think while I'm working, I'm far more reserved. I suppose part of it is kind of setting up a false presentation.
Yeah that is a fair way of looking it, I suppose I am guilty of the same thing. I guess, to a degree, I can come across a little moody, being outgoing one day, then suddenly appear sullen or reserved the next.
Many have told me that I'm too quiet or they assume I'm sad and upset about something. I tell them that I'm thinking about things, and then when they ask me what I'm thinking about, I get a bit nervous because while I want to say 'everything' I don't want to describe anything. Also a lot of the time, I have little or nothing to say which can make people wonder about me moreso. Some believe it's shyness, others believe it's me being cold or stuck-up. Honestly, I learned to stop caring and let people think what they want.
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