[keelysmith]

I frequently find myself struggling with the need to be alone and recharge/refuel my mind/body, whereas not being lonely. Don't get me wrong, I can entertain myself just fine. Though when I'm alone I may find what I'm doing to be more interesting, useful, or comfortable, I can not prevent loneliness seeping into myself. Do fellow INFJ's, or any type, find themselves in this predicament and how have you found balance, or have you not?

[GoodOldDreamer]

I sometimes find myself feeling lonely in terms of not having an SO to share my life with, but I never feel lonely in regards to not having other people around in general. Maybe that's because I work in retail so when I spend days off at home, it's a constant sense of relief, lol.

[Razare]

I just accepted that I was lonely and learned an emotional state that is positive and uplifted in-spite of it.

Rejecting the negative emotion of loneliness at its onset and adopting a positive state of being is essential to this.

[keelysmith]

I feel as though I bounce back and forth from feeling negative or positive emotions towards being lonely. I feel as though there is a sweet spot I'm missing that's just right​ in between the two..

[ThatUglyGirl]

I read the title as "Dealing with the eternal homoerotic battle..." at first

That aside, I relate to this a lot. I enjoy spending time by myself because people generally annoy me and I feel completely drained after being around them (even people I like), but I still feel that need for companionship, unfortunately. I've resolved this a bit by relegating my interactions with people to the Internet while continuing to spend time by myself. I'll see if this contentment lasts, though.

[keelysmith]

Though I look towards the internet for connection, it does not satisfy my yearning for relations with flesh and blood, in front of me, human interaction. A lot of the time, interactions through the internet just depress me.

[Razare]

I feel as though I bounce back and forth from feeling negative or positive emotions towards being lonely. I feel as though there is a sweet spot I'm missing that's just right​ in between the two..

Yes, this is the nature of life-attachments. It's the nature of false-enjoyment of the world around us. It's a real enjoyment of course, but it does not last and leaves a vaccum in its wake, only to be filled with negative feelings.

Then when the negative feelings reach a crescendo, we often do something about it, or find something positive once more to continue the cycle of up and down.

Positive emotional stability is achieved within by spiritual upliftment through egoistic detachment and also through giving oneself.

All true religions of the world can achieve this inner state, but also, it can be learned through simple meditation. We connect with our core self and find fulfillment in that alone... thus the waves of life crash around us and are inconsequential to our serenity.

[firelink]

I go dance (yes I let my SE run his course ) , and meet my friends in bar or restaurant .

[firelink]

it does not satisfy my yearning for relations with flesh and blood, in front of me, human interaction. A lot of the time, interactions through the internet just depress me.

It s the expression of your SE, need to find an SE hobby, there was a topic somewhere that talk how infj deal with their SE, and I can say I relate well

[confused girl28]

I sometimes find myself feeling lonely in terms of not having an SO to share my life with, but I never feel lonely in regards to not having other people around in general. Maybe that's because I work in retail so when I spend days off at home, it's a constant sense of relief, lol.

I can relate, I miss the "feeling" of being in love.


I enjoy every bit of time I spend alone, though I still need the conection, alone time is really important and it is hard for me to get it, so I "squeeze" every bit of it.