INFJ, how do you respond to adversity? I've noticed over the years that while I'm sympathetic and empathetic with those experiencing misfortune (including things I experience directly) I tend to have a calm and philosophical response about it - kind of an "it is what it is, let's make the best of it" outlook. Even while a small part of me may be screaming "F!" and I feel sadness and anger for the situation, I don't get swept away with it and fall apart.
This past year a few close friends and family on both sides have had experienced some very difficult issues. Interestingly, each has said they've felt calm when they're around me especially when we're talking about what's going on. That surprises me because I'm always sure I come off as being cold and uncaring because I'm not so outwardly emotional (at least not in front of the person).
Is that common for other INFJs or is it just me? I'm also interested in how other types respond to things like this too so feel free to chime in.