[Stevenscga]

1. so you can learn from the experience! it may not last forever... but you'll certainly learn a lot about yourself (what you want in a relationship and who you want to be in a relationship) from it. 2. what should you do? have fun with it! don't worry about it so much. cuddle with him. go on cute dates with him. but do NOT invest your whole heart into it quite yet. 3. the age different is kind of alarming. there's a higher chance he may want more from the relationship. if he's constantly talking to you and dying or your attention, he definitely likes you more than just a fling. if he mentions you meeting his parents, it's more than a fling. if he talks about the future, it's more than a fling.

1. The crazy thing is that I learned SO much already. And I definitely learned about myself and what I want. I learned I can't do hookups. And that I have this weird asexual thing going on. But there are moments when I'm not. Still trying to figure out what's going on there.



2. Well what if he wants to go further sexually? The INFJ in me goes: "you could be nice and do that for him".

3. He wanted me to meet his roommate and he talked about her briefly. He mentioned his mom briefly too. I don't remember him mentioning the future. However, I did mention the future to him though . I said he should have this food for me when he's over there. On top of that, really early on when we first met, I asked him if he plans on staying in Asia and he said perhaps and perhaps not. Also, he's a typical ENFP lol. You have to initiate the conversation.

[Stevenscga]

Also! He paid for my move theater ticket because he felt bad he took me to another movie theater that was way more expensive and he didn't know. I'm not sure if it's him (1) being nice, (2) wanting to buy my sex, or if he was (3) doing it for me(?). I felt bad that he paid for it. O_O. I didn't mention it though.

[Stevenscga]

More new information:

So halfway through talking when we first met, he was complaining that this other guy didnt go "all the way" with him. So I asked him just now if he was annoyed that I didn't do anything with him and he said he wasn't at all and that he really enjoyed my time with me.

Also, he does let me know when he's horny and says every once in the while, but not super often, "want to do XYZ?".

Either I'm being shot with mixed messages or he's genuinely interested.

[amy.keiko]

okay okay okay with the movie theater thing, i think he was just being nice. i mean, that's what i would do in that situation with NO intentions of buying the person's sex or anything. he may be rushing things with you since he's going to be on the other side of the world. if he's extremely interested, he won't stay in asia or he'll invite you to come along with. but you should NOT influence what he does with his future; it's not like this is a serious relationship... right?

[Stevenscga]

okay okay okay with the movie theater thing, i think he was just being nice. i mean, that's what i would do in that situation with NO intentions of buying the person's sex or anything. he may be rushing things with you since he's going to be on the other side of the world. if he's extremely interested, he won't stay in asia or he'll invite you to come along with. but you should NOT influence what he does with his future; it's not like this is a serious relationship... right?

He is coming back though. (He comes back on my birthday :D, so if things go well, I might pick him up at the airport which is pretty easy to get to). Of course I'm not going to interfere with his future. Don't know and don't think so.

[Stevenscga]

Super late update. I got heartbroken because he stopped talking to me without any explanation. He just ignored any contact I've had with him. And I'm still not over him :/. I just want some closure so I can move on with my life.

Any advice?