[Noelle]

I'm married to an ENFP, and while there are bumps (as there will be with any relationship) I think it could be one of the best matches I've ever had. We've even done the "split up and then a year later get back together" thing.

What I like:

-I don't think I've ever had so much faith from one person. He is one of the first people in my life that had faith in my dreams and my ability to do things. When other people said "I don't think you can pull it off" he was already signing me up. When the going gets rough, he keeps me going effortlessly. It's really refreshing.

-While he has his b*tchy moments, he is easily one of the most friendly, helpful people. He'd give you the shirt off his back if it would make you happy.



-He pulls me out of my "dark INFJ" spirals. It's easy to fall into "the world sucks and I don't want to be a part of it" hole, but he just gets me to lay back and chill out. He reminds me to just enjoy life and take some down time. I think I'd run myself into the ground even more than I do now without him around.

-He is extremely caring. Just the other day I was in the kitchen and I said "ow" from bumping into the stove and he was running over making sure I was okay. In my mind it was over-reacting, but it's nice that someone cares that much.

-I love how intelligent and open minded he is. It's nice to be able to have a nerdy conversation over dinner.

-He is definitely not afraid to be himself, in any way, shape, or form. He loves purple and loves getting flowers for gifts and going to bridal showers if he freakin' wants to and that's that. :)

The struggles

-He can be smothering sometimes. I don't deal well with smothering people so this has been an issue, but at least it means he cares.

-We kind of have an issue with future planning. He likes my ability to plan for the future and lay down structure, but he just can't seem to follow any of it even though he says he wants to, but that's Ne for you. There's definitely worse problems out there.

-Probably the worst conflict is the Fe/Fi conflicts. He can switch modes on a dime, and if he doesn't want to be happy there's just nothing you're going to do to make him happy. And he tends to have a temper, but he's never violent, just has a loud voice.


But overall, it's a great match. He managed to get me to marry him at 24 when I said my whole life my rule was "no marriage until I'm 30, and probably not at all," so there's a hint at how well they work with INFJs. It really is an unstoppable "we'll take on the world" match if you work at it.

[Pier 56]

We just can't help it...

I like ENFPs a lot, but they tend to be unreliable in my experience.
And when they're angry, they have the capacity to behave very coldly - even viciously.
They also have a good anti-INFJ poker face that is frustrating.
We can tell that they're having a problem, but we can't tell why.
And then they lie and say nothings wrong, which makes it worse because it infers that WE are what's making them angry.

[Swordsman of Mana]

being romantic is fun. 'nuff said

[CloudFire]

I think ENFPs are a really calming presence. With almost any other type, I either feel like I'm being judged, or I am judging others when I know I shouldn't. With ENFPs, it's like I lose any part of my critical nature and just enjoy living. I admire how good they are at loving everybody, and how genuine they seem about it.

Yea I see all that in my co-worker. She's the only ENFP I know although I really wished I knew more after reading how awesome our types get along.

[Nickel]

I've been dating an ENFP for almost 9 months. It's by far the best relationship I've ever been in.

There isn't a mean bone in his body - he's truly good-natured. He's fun, silly, and romantic.
We live together - and have been for most of the relationship - and it still feels like we can't get enough time together. :)
We've never had a fight. There have been a couple misunderstandings early in the relationship, but that's mostly cleared up.
He's brought me out of my shell in so many ways, and he always knows exactly what to say to cheer me up.

[ohnoezitsjoez]

How do ENFP not drain us? Their Ne-Fi-Te-Si are exact opposite of our Ni-Fe-Ti-Se. For that matter, how do we not drain them? I didn't think "opposites complimented" concerning functions. Seems like from what I have read that the same functions but different order is complimentary functions, such as ESTP Se-Ti-Fe-Ne or ISTP Ti-Se-Ni-Fe. Sure I know any pairing can work, I am just referring to the potential for clashes and dominant function draining.

I am curious how real life dynamics of an INFJ + ENFP work, or is what I have heard wrong?

[Discord]

I've been dating an ENFP for almost 9 months. It's by far the best relationship I've ever been in.

There isn't a mean bone in his body - he's truly good-natured. He's fun, silly, and romantic.
We live together - and have been for most of the relationship - and it still feels like we can't get enough time together. :)
We've never had a fight. There have been a couple misunderstandings early in the relationship, but that's mostly cleared up.
He's brought me out of my shell in so many ways, and he always knows exactly what to say to cheer me up.

D'aaawww... That's so adorable...

My INFJ (Still technically not officially typed, but we're pretty sure) and I are absolutely perfect together. We know how to make the other feel better with nothing more than a simple look at the other person. There seems to be an uncanny attraction between the two of us. No matter what we say or do, we never get mad at each other. Never have I been in a more amazing relationship. @Nickel is the best SO for me =D

[uniquegirl]

The type that I seem to most likely connect with instantly are ENFPs. I always have the feeling that they seem to connect with me to at first. While they seem to be very friendly and easy to talk to (I've shared things with ENFPs I have never felt comfortable sharing with anyone else), I always feel that I seem to value them more than they do me. It is always me who initiates contact, never them. While they for the most part respond, I feel they only respond out of obligation not because they really want to be my best friend and I tend to stop initiating contact after several months/years of the same pattern. They also seem at first to be very loyal, but many of my female ENFPs I know tend to be very gossipy (so I always question what they say behind my back. I don't feel I can really trust them) and the males tend to like you until they find someone better which makes me feel used because they make you feel like you are really special to them and you find out they looked at you like everyone else.

[horsewhisper3]

ENFPs in my opinion are the most amazing people Ive ever met, Your so inspiring, and I absolutly love how your not afraid to speak your mind! You see someone you care about getting picked on and you loyally and protectively take their side and defend them. I also love the almost childish and fun loving side of you, people like you make me feel like Im not just another face on the street. You guys help people like me feel like were actually WANTED despite our mostly quiet nature. Flaws and all you guys are unique and perfect. Im still keeping an eye out for an ENFP boyfriend so wish me luck and NEVER change no matter what horrible things people think about you, the world needs more people like you guys. And if you dont mind my asking, why do you guys find us enigmatic? I dont think were that odd....are we?

[gold dust woman]

I so wish I had an enfp. My sister in-law is one. It is a symbiotic relationship that was instant. If only she would spontaneously turn male....