I was recently told that I may have a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I had no idea what BPD was, so I looked it up and still don't know what it is. From what I read about BPD, the signs and symptoms conveniently sound like normal dysfunctions that your average person would suffer from. I mean, realistically, we all have problems, right? I suppose this was some psychiatrists attempt at categorizing us.
Anyway. The assumption was made after I responded to two issues. One issue had to do with the pastor of a church seeking public attention or controversy by exposing his church via the media as a "gay friendly" establishment.
I may not have worded my response well, but I mainly questioned the motives of the pastor. Personally, I don't mind if you're gay or if you go to church. I simply don't understand why a church would specifically advertise itself as accepting of homosexual attendees. I'm of the belief that your sexual preference is YOUR business and there is no logical reason to expose yourself to a church as being either homosexual or heterosexual. It is none of their business and, ideally, not the purpose nor reason for attending church.
So, of course, I was lambasted for that comment, because I'm obviously a hate-spewing bigot. Have you also noticed how freely people throw around the hate moniker these days?
The second comment was made in response to a woman's daughter who had taken it upon herself to protest the derogatory use of the word "gay" by ignorant youth in our society. *sarcasm*
Again, I may have chosen the wrong words in my response and formulated them in a crude manner, but I simply pointed out that I, personally, don't belief in editing or censoring people. I don't offend easily and it is often my hope that society would begin to exhibit some of my patience and understanding but, sadly, we see a lot of paranoia of language that is usually the byproduct of a "bad news is good news" media.
I also made the arguement that, as a society, we should focus more on the motivation of the indivdual and intention of the spoken word, rather than on the words themselves. Words are empty without meaning and, typically, ineffective without action. The inherent danger is not in the word itself, but the emotion of the individual.
In conclusion, I noted that to attempt the societal removal of a word, to me, seemed to be a replication of Orwell's novel 1984, in which the government would select certain words for removal (Newspeak: Newspeak - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia).
At that point, I was presumed to be suffering from BPD and quickly felt the collective scorn of many distressed and offended individuals.
In my defense, logically if I were a bigot, then my comments should not have come as a surprise. But, if I'm NOT a bigot, then my comments and intentions were seriously misunderstood. Either way, the attention that was heaped upon me was certainly unwarranted.
Thanks for reading.